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Category Archives for Social Skills

Evolving Beyond Pick Up: My 21 Convention Interview with Steve Mayeda

I was recently interviewed by Steve Mayeda for the 21 Convention interview series. In this interview, I reveal some key points I’ve never discussed before online, including the truth about what happened when I left my university professorship and my evolution out of my “pick up artist” phase. Discovering self-esteem certainly doesn’t happen overnight and […]

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How to Create Attraction–The Right Way (Podcast Interview)

I just did this intense podcast interview with Alec Chase over at Men’s Dating Mastery. In this interview, some of the points we cover include how neuroscience can help your sex life, how to cultivate emotional strength, how to express yourself honestly, solutions to the challenges faced by Asian men dating in the West, and…a […]

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Mark Manson Interview with David Tian at Aura Dating Academy – “Inside the Players’ Lounge”

The latest interview in the “Inside the Players’ Lounge” series is with my good friend, Mark Manson, who has written some of the very BEST analyses of relationships and mating psychology. Many of his articles have gone seriously viral… and for very good reason. Just some of the things you’ll learn in this video include: […]

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Honesty as the Cornerstone of Attraction and How to Demolish Your Deepest Insecurities in Dating: 21 Convention Full Talk with Outline

The original title of the talk was, “Honesty as the Cornerstone of Attraction.” I think that title still best encapsulates the content of the talk, but an attendee wrote in and said that as a result of my talk, he learned how to demolish his deepest insecurities, and I thought that’d be a catchier title. […]

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The Limits of Personality Change: Some Reflections

I’m in the change business. I spent many years changing my personality and my life, and becoming more and more empowered in dating, fitness, relationships, and life in general. And I’ve now spent nearly a decade coaching men and women to success in dating, which almost always means deep personality change. I don’t write this […]

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Singapore Dating Academy AURA’s Full-Page Feature Article in Singapore’s Highest Circulation Newspaper, The Straits Times

There was also a front-page blurb near the top of the cover saying, “DATING ACADEMIES: If love is a battlefield, here’s how some men train up.” I’ve just received a cease and desist letter from Singapore Press Holdings dictating that I cannot show the scans of the newspaper article. Talk about beating up on the […]

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Singapore “Dating Coaches” and Aura Dating Academy: An Experience

* The following is a true story, which took place in Singapore * A couple years ago, Michael Tan, a 27-year old Singaporean engineer realized he needed help with women. He had had girlfriends before two of them one during his JC years and another during his uni days. Neither of those girls were what […]

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Inside the Players’ Lounge, Episode 1, Part 2: Dr. David Tian Interviews Starlight from Love Systems

Inside the Players Lounge is a series of interviews of top dating coaches and social artists who are Asian, are based in Asia, or have a deep interest in Asia and Asian women. You can find Part 1 of the Inside the Players’ Lounge interview with Starlight here. In Part 2 of the interview, some […]

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Dating Skills Podcast Interviews Dr. Asian Rake David

I’m really excited to share with you this interview I did with the Managing Director of Dating Skills Review, Angel Donovan. I’ve known Angel from way back in 2005, when he was living in Shanghai and running the China Lair, which under his mature leadership, was a tight ship with plenty of helpful content and […]

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Interviews with Hot Girls: Nick Sparks Demonstrates Talkative Sexual Vibe

Been swamped with meeting, coaching, lecturing, video editing, writing, tons of overseas travel almost every weekend for the past couple months, and most recently a kick-ass bootcamp this past weekend that saw clients flying in from LA and around Southeast Asia just for the weekend. And what a weekend it was! I’ve got lots of […]

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How to be Funny and Sexy at the Same Time: Nick Sparks Demonstrates with Rachel

Another installment from “Interviews with Cute Girls” from The Social Man’s Nick Sparks and Christian Hudson. As usual, Nick just met this woman. Nick is a great example of fun, talkative, but sexual vibe. You can catch Rachel in various roles on TV and musical theater. She’s fun with a quick wit. Watch, learn, and […]

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What If You’re the Only Asian Guy in a Group of Good-Looking White Dudes?

Commenter Al had a great question that I’m sure many others also have, so I thought I’d just make it a post on it’s own. Hey David, I just enrolled in the Unbreakable program (from The Social Man). One thing I was thinking while watching the first video was that both Christian and Nick are […]

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How to Talk to Girls and Turn Them on: Nick Sparks Demonstrates Talkative, Sexual Vibe

A while back, the man running The Social Man, Christian Hudson, had a great idea. From what he told me, he put out a Craigslist ad for girls who were willing to be interviewed for a dating site about their views on dating and men. Here is one of the results. On the day of […]

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How to be Social: What to Think When You’re Approaching and Meeting New Women–The Attraction Mindset (video)

Want to get better with women but also avoid being one of those creepy pick up guys who brag about “pulling chicks” or getting numbers from girls at bars, bookstores, or city streets? Then you should cultivate the simple and easy ATTRACTION MINDSET. It also a great way to learn how to be social and […]

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How to Speak Better and Get the Girl

My latest article on Amped Asia. You can see it on their site here. I reference some videos and have added a couple of the clips below for your convenience. If the words in the jpgs below are too small, you can right-click the image and enlarge it separately. How to Improve Your Verbal Skills […]

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How to Use Humour to Attract Women

This is my latest article on Amped Asia. You can check out my article on “How to Use Humor to Attract Women” here. I’ve reproduced it below for your convenience. If the jpegs are too small, click on them, and that will enlarge them for you in a new browser. As always, comments are welcome! […]

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The Power of Attention in Controlling Attraction: Californication as Case Study

One of my favorite TV shows, Californication, is also beloved by many aspiring social artists. But many dating coaches fail to see the social arts (of the script writers and Duchovny playing the character) in the movie. The guy who put together this video clip does a great job of pointing a lot of what’s […]

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How to be Politely Assertive: Trudeau and Cruise

A common question I get from Singaporean clients is how they can be assertive without being assholes. It’s as if they never had any role-models to show them how to be assertive in a civil manner. They’ve only seen the two extremes of (1) being a passive, pushover who gets taken advantage of and shoved […]

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Top 5 New Year’s Resolutions to Jumpstart Your Dating Life

From now on, any articles geared more to the Singapore context will be posted on the Aura blog with a notice on asianrake.com, just like this one 🙂 Check this article out here: Singapore Dating Academy’s Top 5 New Year’s Resolutions to Jumpstart Your Dating Life. Happy new year!!!

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How to Practice Approaching Even in Close Knit Social Circles

Just published another Amped Asia article. Lance and his team are doing some valuable work over there for the cause of Asian minorities, especially Asian guys, so I’m more than happy to help out. My latest article deals with what you can do to practice your skills in approaching and attracting women, even when you’re […]

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