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Category Archives for Self-Development

Evolving Beyond Pick Up: My 21 Convention Interview with Steve Mayeda

I was recently interviewed by Steve Mayeda for the 21 Convention interview series. In this interview, I reveal some key points I’ve never discussed before online, including the truth about what happened when I left my university professorship and my evolution out of my “pick up artist” phase. Discovering self-esteem certainly doesn’t happen overnight and […]

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Life Coaching, Anthony Robbins, and How to Get Girls (My Interview with Dating Skills Review)

You might have noticed a shift in the content that I’ve been putting out over the past few years. It’s been an enjoyable process of growth, progress, and evolution to go beyond just a narrow interest in pleasure and women.  And naturally, that has led to a change in my own research interests, coaching, and […]

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Mark Manson Interview with David Tian at Aura Dating Academy – “Inside the Players’ Lounge”

The latest interview in the “Inside the Players’ Lounge” series is with my good friend, Mark Manson, who has written some of the very BEST analyses of relationships and mating psychology. Many of his articles have gone seriously viral… and for very good reason. Just some of the things you’ll learn in this video include: […]

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The Manifesto: How to Become a Sexually Attractive Asian Man–Independent (Part 4)

Too many people settle in life, spending their lives doing only what is expected of them. Most of society settles into a routine in their mid-twenties. And that routine does not change for the next forty years. It’s deadening. It will suck your life force dry and women will see it. No woman wants to […]

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Honesty as the Cornerstone of Attraction and How to Demolish Your Deepest Insecurities in Dating: 21 Convention Full Talk with Outline

The original title of the talk was, “Honesty as the Cornerstone of Attraction.” I think that title still best encapsulates the content of the talk, but an attendee wrote in and said that as a result of my talk, he learned how to demolish his deepest insecurities, and I thought that’d be a catchier title. […]

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The Manifesto: How to Become a Sexually Attractive Asian Man–Assertiveness (Part 1 of 2)

Assertiveness the Passive Aggressive Asian Push-Over Before diving into a detailed description of Assertiveness, let’s first get clear on the problem. Too many Asian men fall into the trap of being passive-aggressive Asian push-overs. To help you better understand what this means, here’s an example that is common in nightclubs in Asia: In a hip […]

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The Manifesto: How to Become a Sexually Attractive Asian Man–Adventurous and Easygoing (Part 6 of 6)

This is Part 6 and the last part in this section. To read from Part 1 of this section on being adventurous and easygoing, click here. To read the Introduction to the Manifesto, click here. How to Have It All Now you want to know how you can do this, how you can have it […]

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The Manifesto: How to be a Sexually Attractive Asian Man–Adventurous and Easygoing (Part 5)

This is Part 5 in the series. To read from Part 1 of this section on being adventurous and easygoing, click here. To read the Introduction to the Manifesto, click here. Easygoing: Becoming Cool, and the Difference between Assertiveness and Aggressiveness Paradoxically, being adventurous and being easygoing go hand-in-hand. Because you are laid-back and don’t […]

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The Manifesto: How to Become a Sexually Attractive Asian Man–Adventurous and Easygoing (Part 4)

This is Part 4 in a series. To read from Part 1 of this section on being adventurous and easygoing, click here. To read the Introduction to the Manifesto, click here. Overcoming Fear Often, adventure isn’t adventurous without some element of risk and fear. To become an adventurous person, you’ve got to get used to […]

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The Manifesto: How to Become a Sexually Attractive Asian Man–Adventurous and Easygoing (Part 3)

Becoming Adventurous In a poignant scene of the Martin Scorsese film, Hugo, the main character–an orphaned boy–remarked that he wanted to do something, to which the female lead–his “love” interest–replied, “No, it’s too dangerous. We could get into trouble.” To this the heroic boy replied, That’s how we know it’s an adventure! To have an […]

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The Manifesto: How to Become a Sexually Attractive Asian Man–Adventurous and Easygoing (Part 2)

Developing Independence and Eliminating Approval-Seeking Behaviour The next installment in our Manifesto series! To read from the Introduction, click here. To read from the start of the this section on being Adventurous and Easygoing, click here. So you grew up with strict, demanding parents and ended up with an approval-seeking personality, especially from women. You’re […]

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The Manifesto: How to Become a Sexually Attractive Asian Man–Adventurous and Easygoing (Part 1)

The sexually attractive man–no matter his race–is a leader, assertive, sexual, and adventurous and easy going. Now let’s look in more detail at the last two traits: Adventurous and Easygoing. For the Introduction to this series, click here. For the first part of the series, which was on Leadership, click here. We know that women […]

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The Manifesto: How to Become a Sexually Attractive Asian Man–Leadership (Part 3/3)

The first step to becoming a sexually attractive Asian man is to develop leadership in yourself. This is the third instalment on “Leadership.” To see the introduction of the Manifesto, click here. To read the previous installment on Leadership, click here. Every empowered Asian man I’ve ever met knows how to take charge. They are […]

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The Manifesto: How to Become a Sexually Attractive Asian Man–Leadership (Part 2/3)

For the introduction to the series on being a Sexually Attractive Asian Man, click here. For Part 1 of “Leadership” in this series, click here. Onto Part 2 of “Leadership”: Now let’s be clearer and examine actual real-life examples of such elite, sexually attractive Asian men. Let’s look at history first, because by the time […]

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The Manifesto: How to Become a Sexually Attractive Asian Man–Leadership (Part 1/3)

In the Introduction, I stated that an attractive, sexually successful Asian male is assertive, adventurous and easy going. He is also highly sexual, and perhaps foremost, the sexually attractive Asian male is a leader. To see the Introduction, click here. From talking to countless Singaporeans about this, I’ve discovered that some in Singapore think being […]

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The MANIFESTO: How to become a Sexually Attractive Asian Man–Introduction

The Asian man is a bit of an underdog in the modern dating world. While he possesses many qualities that might help him to be a good husband, these qualities are often overlooked by women who are initially looking for hot dating material, not husbands. You, as an Asian man, need to understand the feelings […]

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The Plight of Asian Masculinity: Singapore supervisor caught on video slapping 29 year-old intern–are you kidding me?

Hidden camera footage from Singapore of a nerdy-looking supervisor abusively bitch-slapping his intern has gone viral and was even taken down by Youtube apparently for “violating their policies on violence and disturbing content” (I’ve seen a lot worse on Youtube), according to the International Business Times. No doubt, the abusive supervisor should be punished. So […]

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How to Believe in Yourself: The Best Way to Build Lasting Self-Confidence

I get asked this question a lot: “How can I believe in myself?” Usually, it’s asked by someone who hasn’t done all that much to move forward or make progress, someone who’s only put in a bit of effort to improve. In other words, it’s the whining of a lazy, sheltered boy looking for a […]

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Speaking at the 21 Convention Melbourne 2012

I was invited to speak at the 21 Convention in Melbourne, Australia, by Anthony Johnson, the founder. I ordinarily turn down offers to speak at pick up conventions and summits because that’s not the direction I want to go, but I was impressed by how well-balanced and mature, ironically, the 21 Convention had become in […]

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My Interview with Career Hack

Seasons Greetings! The author of this blog, Michael Park, got in touch with me a long time ago about various things and asked to do this interview a while back. It’s finally out! I hope it helps people get a better idea of what it’s like to make a living from dating consultancy and social […]

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