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Evolving Beyond Pick Up: My 21 Convention Interview with Steve Mayeda

I was recently interviewed by Steve Mayeda for the 21 Convention interview series. In this interview, I reveal some key points I’ve never discussed before online, including the truth about what happened when I left my university professorship and my evolution out of my “pick up artist” phase. Discovering self-esteem certainly doesn’t happen overnight and […]

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Life Coaching, Anthony Robbins, and How to Get Girls (My Interview with Dating Skills Review)

You might have noticed a shift in the content that I’ve been putting out over the past few years. It’s been an enjoyable process of growth, progress, and evolution to go beyond just a narrow interest in pleasure and women.  And naturally, that has led to a change in my own research interests, coaching, and […]

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How to Create Attraction–The Right Way (Podcast Interview)

I just did this intense podcast interview with Alec Chase over at Men’s Dating Mastery. In this interview, some of the points we cover include how neuroscience can help your sex life, how to cultivate emotional strength, how to express yourself honestly, solutions to the challenges faced by Asian men dating in the West, and…a […]

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“The Secret Scientific Findings About Sex, Love, and Female Desire That Society Doesn’t Want You To Know” — My Capstone Lecture at SMU

After catching up and discussing ongoing research with Professor Norm Li at the Singapore Management University (SMU) for most of the afternoon, I gave a talk to the graduating class of SMU at their Capstone Seminars. I chose the deliberately eye-catching title: “The Secret Scientific Findings About Sex, Love, and Female Desire That Society Doesn’t Want […]

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Mark Manson Interview with David Tian at Aura Dating Academy – “Inside the Players’ Lounge”

The latest interview in the “Inside the Players’ Lounge” series is with my good friend, Mark Manson, who has written some of the very BEST analyses of relationships and mating psychology. Many of his articles have gone seriously viral… and for very good reason. Just some of the things you’ll learn in this video include: […]

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Honesty as the Cornerstone of Attraction and How to Demolish Your Deepest Insecurities in Dating: 21 Convention Full Talk with Outline

The original title of the talk was, “Honesty as the Cornerstone of Attraction.” I think that title still best encapsulates the content of the talk, but an attendee wrote in and said that as a result of my talk, he learned how to demolish his deepest insecurities, and I thought that’d be a catchier title. […]

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The Manifesto: How to Become a Sexually Attractive Asian Man–Adventurous and Easygoing (Part 6 of 6)

This is Part 6 and the last part in this section. To read from Part 1 of this section on being adventurous and easygoing, click here. To read the Introduction to the Manifesto, click here. How to Have It All Now you want to know how you can do this, how you can have it […]

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Is She a Psychopath?

Here’s a really insightful and lucid article from Michael Fiore that answers the above question. Straightforward and to the point. It is so good that I’m adapting it slightly and reposting here: Karl asks… Mike, I feel like I’m in a horror movie. I started dating this girl 6 months ago and at first things […]

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The Manifesto: How to Become a Sexually Attractive Asian Man–Adventurous and Easygoing (Part 2)

Developing Independence and Eliminating Approval-Seeking Behaviour The next installment in our Manifesto series! To read from the Introduction, click here. To read from the start of the this section on being Adventurous and Easygoing, click here. So you grew up with strict, demanding parents and ended up with an approval-seeking personality, especially from women. You’re […]

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The Manifesto: How to Become a Sexually Attractive Asian Man–Leadership (Part 1/3)

In the Introduction, I stated that an attractive, sexually successful Asian male is assertive, adventurous and easy going. He is also highly sexual, and perhaps foremost, the sexually attractive Asian male is a leader. To see the Introduction, click here. From talking to countless Singaporeans about this, I’ve discovered that some in Singapore think being […]

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The MANIFESTO: How to become a Sexually Attractive Asian Man–Introduction

The Asian man is a bit of an underdog in the modern dating world. While he possesses many qualities that might help him to be a good husband, these qualities are often overlooked by women who are initially looking for hot dating material, not husbands. You, as an Asian man, need to understand the feelings […]

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The Plight of Asian Masculinity: Singapore supervisor caught on video slapping 29 year-old intern–are you kidding me?

Hidden camera footage from Singapore of a nerdy-looking supervisor abusively bitch-slapping his intern has gone viral and was even taken down by Youtube apparently for “violating their policies on violence and disturbing content” (I’ve seen a lot worse on Youtube), according to the International Business Times. No doubt, the abusive supervisor should be punished. So […]

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How to Believe in Yourself: The Best Way to Build Lasting Self-Confidence

I get asked this question a lot: “How can I believe in myself?” Usually, it’s asked by someone who hasn’t done all that much to move forward or make progress, someone who’s only put in a bit of effort to improve. In other words, it’s the whining of a lazy, sheltered boy looking for a […]

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SMU Capstone Talk on Demolishing Your Deepest Insecurities with Honesty

Happy new year! Twice over! I’ve been so incredibly busy since Christmas that two new year’s festivities have passed since I last posted–the regular new year and now the Lunar New Year. I love living in Singapore, where the cultural festivals of several cultural groups are respected and observed, including the Chinese New Year. One […]

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The Limits of Personality Change: Some Reflections

I’m in the change business. I spent many years changing my personality and my life, and becoming more and more empowered in dating, fitness, relationships, and life in general. And I’ve now spent nearly a decade coaching men and women to success in dating, which almost always means deep personality change. I don’t write this […]

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Be Easygoing: Relax, It Could Help Spread Your Genes

Among the many personality traits that most women consider attractive in a man, there are five traits that most men raised in an Asian cultural setting, whether in an Asian country or in a culturally conservative Asian home in the West, tend to lack more than men in the West: Assertiveness, Adventurousness, Group Leadership, Being […]

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Dating Coach David Tian, Ph.D., Interviews Professor Norman Li of SMU (All Parts)

UPDATE: I’ve just uploaded the third and final segment of the interview with Norman Li! Scroll down to view it! Inside the Players’ Lounge is a series of interviews of top dating coaches and social artists who are Asian, are based in Asia, or have a deep interest in Asia and its women. In this […]

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Do You Have Everything You Want? Want to Know How to Get It?

Great article by my pal, Christian Hudson over at The Social Man. Some snippets that I liked: I am consistently amazed at how many people “settle for less”.  Even more amazing is when I see attempts to rationalize it. For some, it means a grudging acceptance of their place in life and incessant bitching about […]

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Mating Intelligence: Develop it or Be Weeded out in Evolution

Just wanted to apprise you of an excellent book that collects some of the latest academic research on the topic of mating and evolution: Mating Intelligence: Sex, Relationships, and the Mind’s Reproductive System, edited by Glenn Geher and Geoffrey Miller. In my personal development, I’ve found the concepts of Emotional Intelligence and Social Intelligence extraordinarily […]

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