This is my latest article on Amped Asia. You can check out my article on “How to Use Humor to Attract Women” here.
I’ve reproduced it below for your convenience. If the jpegs are too small, click on them, and that will enlarge them for you in a new browser.
As always, comments are welcome!
Question from Matthew: Everyone knows that humor is a big attraction tool. How does someone who’s not very funny, or is perhaps soft-spoken, develop a good ability with humor?
You are totally correct that humor is a big attraction tool.
If you can’t even make a girl laugh, there’s very little chance you’ll be able to attract her. If you CAN make her laugh, you’ve got a good sign she’s at least comfortable with you and may accept your advances.
Lack of humor is a problem endemic to Confucianized cultures, including East Asian societies. We’re taught to think logically, to be conformists, and to be obedient to our parents and elders. Our Confucianized parents raised us to be good mathematicians, engineers, and classical pianists. We aren’t using to living in the mental world of the ridiculous or doing and saying outrageously bizarre things.
But just like any other skill, being comedic and conveying humor are things you can learn, practice, and master. I’ll give you three quick tips any Asian brothers or sisters can use to channel their inner Russell Peters.
1. EXAGGERATE TO ABSURDITY
You (as a guy approaching the most hottest women in the bar or club): Hey look, I know you guys are soo terribly unattractive that no guys would ever hit on you… So, I thought I’d do you a favor and make you look good… You guys are my good deed for the week (sly smile).
Don’t do this on average-looking girls or on women lacking self-esteem. This is reserved for women who are beautiful and know they’re beautiful. They will get the joke 😉
Check out Russell Brand for exemplary cases of the “Exaggerate to Absurdity” strategy, especially his interview with Nerina Pallot. For the Russell Brand Nerina Pallot interview, click here.
2. POSITIVE MISINTERPRETATION
3. GET YOUR FRIENDS LAUGHING FIRST (AND GET READY TO LAUGH AT YOURSELF)
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