“Singles in Singapore”: Live TV Appearance on Dating in Singapore

September 4, 2010

I was invited as the “dating expert” by Channel NewsAsia (the premier news channel in the region) and their online presence, BlogTV, to be on a panel on live TV. The topic was the Singapore government’s recent call for proposals to increase dating among Singapore singles, which is part of their broader dating campaign and attempt to raise marriage and birth rates among the higher socio-economic status (SES) groups in the country.

It was a lot of fun, and the extra adrenaline rush from doing a LIVE TV show was exciting. The hosts were excellent at keeping everyone engaged, and the producers were very professional. The set was also huge, much bigger than it looks on the screen, as it was housed in a cavernous warehouse. The show aired from 8:15-9:15PM on BlogTV, and Channel NewsAsia picked it up from 8:30-9PM live on prime time television.

Here are a few clips. They’re from the online version, which was filmed using a different set of cameras from the Channel NewsAsia TV show, so it’s mainly static, with very little zooming, unlike the TV show. Thanks are due to LL for editing and uploading.

Cheers, David.

Top 5 Tips for Singaporean Men Who Want to Attract Beautiful Women

August 22, 2010

The premier news channel in Singapore, Channel News Asia, asked me to put together a list of the top five tips for Singaporean men who want to attract beautiful Singaporean women. You can find my article here!

Unfortunately, it seems the formatting was all lost in the conversion, so all the bold text is gone, but I’m sure you can figure it out. Check it out here for yourself!

Would love to hear your thoughts. You can contact me at: david@asianrake.com

Cheers!

The Social Arts according to “The Karate Kid”: 3 Major Lessons

July 5, 2010

When I saw the remake of the cult classic, The Karate Kid, a couple weeks ago, I was reminded of why the original movie was so often mentioned in self-improvement circles and why that rake Nick Sparks was unashamed to pronounce that he is this movie’s number one fan, lol.

Both the original and the 2010 remake, starring Jackie Chan and Jaden Smith (son of Will Smith and Jada Pinkett-Smith), hold a lot of lessons for guys who are learning the social arts. Why not use pop culture–stuff guys are already watching–to teach higher level principles, which are usually expressed in a recondite and overly abstract manner, and to present them in a more accessible format? Haha, this is a fun article I’ve been meaning to do for a while actually, even before the remake came out.

If you haven’t seen the 2010 remake yet, I highly recommend it. The portrayal of Beijing and the mountain monasteries in China is not as romanticized as most Hollywood depictions, though the most modernized and glitziest parts of Beijing never figured in any of the scenes.

The 2010 remake trailer:

Yes. Indulge me for a minute ;-)

3 Lessons

1. Check Your Preconceptions at the Door, and Start from Scratch

Early in the movie, we see Jaden Smith’s character (I forgot the character’s name, so I’m just going to refer to him as Jaden) trying to learn martial arts from DVDs. Jackie Chan’s character (again, forgot the character’s name, so will refer to him as Chan) sees this while fixing something in Jaden’s apartment and realizes that there is very little chance Jaden will be able to learn martial arts from DVDs.

Well, ya gotta start somewhere. And as most guys out there, I too had my introduction from paperbacks, ebooks, audio programs, and DVDs. But I was fortunate enough to have real life mentors early on–guys like Christian Hudson and Sebastian Drake–guide me in person. Otherwise, I would have been stuck like Jaden or Daniel-san, trying to learn from a TV screen.

Later, when Jaden went to his first kung-fu lesson by Chan, the first thing Jaden did was to explain to Chan that he already knew some fighting moves and was naturally athletic, so he “wasn’t as bad as the average guy,” and that “it would be easier to teach him than to teach the average kid off the street.” Jaden proceeded to (try to) demonstrate some of what he could do and ended up making a mess, breaking Chan’s vase.

Instead of acknowledging any current abilities that Jaden might have already had, Chan ignored Jaden’s ego-protecting attempts at self-qualification and set for him the mundane task of having Jaden throw down and then hang up his jacket over and over and over for nights in a row. At the time, Jaden thought that Chan was trying to punish him for his bad attitude (related to an earlier scene involving Smith’s mother) and did not think Chan was teaching him anything about kung-fu.

As I recall, in the original movie, Mr. Miyagi had to ignore Daniel-san’s tendency to think he already knew what he was doing and to force Daniel to learn from the ground up, from scratch. He had to do this even when Daniel progressed to the level of punching with gloves and protective gear.

When it comes to working with an experienced personal coach on an individual basis, don’t worry about making sure the coach knows what you can already do. If he’s an experienced, competent coach, he will be able to figure out for himself pretty quickly how good you are. Master coaches and even some naturals can tell within a few minutes how good a guy is with women. And if he needs any further information, he will know the right questions to ask. You don’t have to offer any explanations. In fact, the guys who waste time continually telling the trainers how good they already are (or were) and relating lengthy stories that were unsolicited are usually guys whose attitudes make them unteachable.

Often, students have to spend an initial period UNLEARNING all the mish mash of jumbled misconceptions and misinterpretations before they can actually understand and apply the correct stuff.

So instead, approach the learning with an open mind, and leave your preconceived notions at the door. Try to do exactly as your trainer instructs you FIRST before you start trying to think of reasons why it won’t work or devising “what if” scenarios. Otherwise, you will just be wasting your and their time. Try out their suggestions first, and give them a fair try. Only then come back for reflection and refinement.

As Miyagi said, to Daniel: “We make sacred pact. I promise teach karate to you. You promise learn. I say. You do. No questions.”

2. Be Patient with Progress; the “Why” Will Become Clear over Time

Master teachers know that if the student’s mindset is just as, if not more, important than the technique. That’s why Chan didn’t tell Jaden why he had him throw down and hang up his jacket over and over, and why Mr. Miyagi did not first tell Daniel-san why he had him wax his car, paint his fence, and sand his floor.

When kids want to learn martial arts, it’s often because they want to know how to fight. But that’s not really what’s best for them in the long run. The bad teachers in The Karate Kid movies just give the kids what they want (partly because that’s what the instructors are after, too): violence and aggression. But the real masters know that true mastery of any skillful activity in life necessitates and generates a higher outlook and greater purpose.

In the social arts, a lot of guys start out just wanting to bed a lot of girls with perhaps a very distant long-term goal of settling down with one or many long-term relationships or a spouse. Their immediate focus is on getting more and more sex–same night lays, faster and faster seductions, models and bottles, orgies galore–and that’s what a lot of the PUA marketing sells them. But the true masters know that these short-term gratifications will never result in any kind of lasting happiness or even contentment.

But they also know that most students aren’t ready to understand this.

So instead of trying to persuade them, a good coach might mislead or keep the student guessing as to the exact reason or greater purpose behind the lesson, at least until the student is ready to understand.

Most guys don’t really understand just how important are Body Language, Tonality, Eye Contact, and Mental States. They are far more important than verbal material or lines. Students often don’t really understand why they have to spend over 80% of their time working on and monitoring their posture; the way they stand, sit, move, walk, chew, talk; how they look into other people’s eyes; and why they have to do Visualizations and Affirmations daily; and most importantly, that they should focus mainly only on 3 things when they’re socializing: Having Fun; Making Other People Have Fun; and Making Connections.

Instead, they keep thinking their problem is that they don’t know what to say. It’s like those guys who think their problem is they don’t know how to punch and keep wanting to learn how to punch.

Daniel: When do I learn how to punch?
Miyagi: Better learn balance. Balance is key. Balance good, karate good. Everything good. Balance bad, better pack up, go home. Understand?

Daniel: [practicing blocks in Mr. Miyagi's boat] When am I gonna learn how to punch?
Miyagi: Learn how punch, after you learn how keep dry! [rocks boat, throwing Daniel into the water]

For instance, sometimes, what a guy most needs is to conquer his approach anxiety. But because of his crippling fear, he can’t tackle the problem head on by doing a ton of cold approaches. So instead, the coach tricks him into thinking he’s doing something else other than approaching–doing social freedom exercises like small talk with harmless strangers or doing crazy stunts on the street–and then eases the student into raising the bar to small talk with cute girls, bypassing the anxiety triggers.

This is the “boiling the frog” method.

3. The Social Arts are in Everything; Start with What You Naturally Do

Probably the most obvious parallel between The Karate Kid and debates in the social arts is in the natural vs. canned issue.

I doubt I need to explain this. It should be obvious.

The bad karate teacher is all about ruthless technique and using artificial means to toughen his kids up and brainwash them into being bad monsters.

Miyagi and Chan, however, teach their students using everyday actions–the sort of things they would naturally have to do as part of their daily activities–chores around the house and even just something as mundane as hanging up a jacket.

The deeper principle is in Jackie Chan’s line: “Everything is Kung Fu.” Or, “Kung Fu is in everything you do.”

Similarly, the social arts aren’t just for attracting women, though many guys only think of it in that narrowest of scopes–”pick up.” The social arts are involved any time you are interacting with another person. Practicing the social arts requires and develops social intelligence and emotional intelligence, which many researchers and experts consider to be far more accurate an indicator of life success than one’s IQ.

Almost all the skills involved in flirting with women are implicated and crossover in the skills required for socializing PERIOD. They are just adapted to a specific context. So actually, if you get good at and continue to improve at socializing in general–which is actually easier for most guys–and in many different and diverse contexts, you will concurrently progress in attracting women. As most PUAs often forget, women are people, too, LOL. Get good with people, and you will naturally get good with women.

Moreover, you will be doing so in a much more sustainable, healthy (read: non-creepy), and effective manner.

This bit of dialogue in the original movie sums it up nicely. Substitute “picking up girls” for “fighting” and “the social arts” for “karate,” and you get the idea:

Let “fighting”=”picking up girls”

Let “karate”=”The Social Arts”

Daniel: Hey - you ever get into fights when you were a kid?
Miyagi: Huh - plenty.
Daniel: Yeah, but it wasn’t like the problem I have, right?
Miyagi: Why? Fighting fighting. Same same.
Daniel: Yeah, but you knew karate.
Miyagi: Someone always know more.
Daniel: You mean there were times when you were scared to fight?
Miyagi: Always scare. Miyagi hate fighting.
Daniel: Yeah, but you like karate.
Miyagi: So?
Daniel: So, karate’s fighting. You train to fight.
Miyagi: That what you think?
Daniel: [pondering] No.
Miyagi: Then why train?
Daniel: [thinks] So I won’t have to fight.
Miyagi: [laughs] Miyagi have hope for you.

Thanks for reading along on my whimsical reflections! David have hope for you ;-) LOL  Feedback appreciated.

Cheers, Asian Rake David.

The original trailer:

The Keys to Life: Running & Reading

June 23, 2010

Being a big fan of Will Smith for a long time, not just because of his success in acting and music, but because he is also an all-around achiever of dreams, I want to share these with you.

Check out this short clip of Smith’s acceptance speech at the Kid’s Choice Awards. His “two keys to life” are also the “two keys to mastering the social arts.” Simple, yet profound.

1. Running.

As Will Smith says, if you learn how to defeat that little voice when you’re running that says to you, “I’m so tired. It’s too hard. Give up. There’s no way I could possibly continue,” then you will learn how to persevere when things get hard in life. No wonder the clients who progressed the fastest (sometimes reaching their goals after just one or two days) were often also the ones who had excelled in fitness or athletics. Or, their biggest growth spurts in social arts closely correlated with big strides in physical fitness. They withstand the social pressure, defeat the approach anxiety, and persist in the face of setbacks and challenges.

2. Reading.

Considering the accumulated wisdom of all those people who have gone before us, it would be stupid to try to reinvent the wheel every time and not learn from them. There is really no new problem you can have. Nowadays, there are just variations. In the social arts, I am an avid learner. I used to think it was because I was an academic. But no. The clients who improve the quickest are the ones who know how to learn, whether that be from books, movies, audio or DVD programs, in-field observations, or from personal mentoring. They devour all the knowledge they can get their hands on and apply, test, experiment with it themselves in the real world. For some suggestions, see my articles on Required Readings and Excellent Movies for Modeling.

See also this classic collection of Will Smith clips.

Join the Fight against Extreme Poverty and Preventable Disease

June 15, 2010

The first ever social arts program whose profits went 100% to charity concluded this past weekend as an outstanding success! We more than met our initial fundraising goal, and it was a great honor and pleasure to have met and worked with all the participants in the Master Your Social Power program. And I again thank them for helping to make poverty a relic of the past. For more details on the program, go here.

The proceeds went to One Singapore, which is dedicated to raising public awareness and taking concrete actions to make poverty history. It was a joy working with them and their broad-minded, fun-loving, and super sharp committee members, who made sure that everything went smoothly. If you are outside Singapore, you can also learn more about One Foundation International here.

Again, thank you to all who helped make this program and event a resounding success!

Top 10 Tips for Success

June 5, 2010

Quick announcement regarding the Master Your Social Power program next weekend (June 12-13), for which 100% of the profits are going to charity: We have only a couple openings left before we close registration for this program, so if you’re interested, get in touch with us ASAP at: admin “at” asianrake.com

Those who’ve already registered will be receiving their preparation materials in just a few days. You can find more info about the program here.

Top 10 Tips for Success

Over the past several years, I’ve noticed strikingly similar patterns among men who get very good with women very fast. These high performance achievers and their success stories present a stark contrast to the numerous guys all over the world who keep going out every night trying to practice “sarging” and only meet with continual disappointment and discouragement and then give up. I’ve become acquainted with some of these demoralized men in person and over email, and I hope that this article can point out a few things they haven’t done yet, which can help lift them out of their valley of defeat.

In very diverse parts of my life, I’ve also noticed certain commonalities on my way to the successes that I’ve had. If you reflect on your own successes, I’m sure you will notice the same patterns.

I’ve been fortunate in my 33 years on this earth to have had the opportunity, luxury, and resources to pursue various goals and excel at them. I still have many other goals that I am still working towards, and I am looking forward to tackling them one by one.

These top 10 tips for success can be applied across a great diversity of activities, goals, and fields. In my own experience, these same principles were responsible for my excellence in areas as various as academic achievement, music performance, martial arts, fitness and athletics, lifestyle design, and the social arts. So here they are, in no particular order. I originally wrote this to a musician friend.

1.     Fundamentals First

This is all about the 80-20 rule (aka., The Pareto Principle).

My saxophone teacher called the fundamentals to sax playing The Three T’s (tone, tonguing, technique).  For about 5 years, I spent the first 15-20 minutes of practice time just going over the Three T’s.

In the attraction arts, it’s attitude (inner states), body language, tonality, and eye contact. These alone account for over 90% of getting attraction.

It’s easy to find the fundamentals in every skillful activity. Focus on and master the fundamentals first and foremost.

2.    Aim to reach the Critical Mass Point.

I used to think the key was to practice daily, that it was better to work in brief daily sessions than in longer sessions spaced out over time. But I no longer believe that.

Instead, it’s best to wait until you have enough time and energy to devote to building momentum (caveat: though of course it’s better to do even just a little bit every day than wait a month or more before you can set aside a lot of time). The point is to reach the Critical Mass Point, which is the point at which you attain Flow (in the Csikszentmihalyi sense of the term; see his classic book, Flow). It’s like a tipping point or critical mass.

Each kind of activity will have a different Critical Mass Point. For instance, it’s pointless to work out just 10 minutes a day if you’re trying to lose fat (although this is still much better than nothing) because by the time you’ve warmed up, you have to stop, and you haven’t been able to burn any calories.

You can also look at this as the Warm Up. This is obvious in sports and music, but studies have also shown that the brain needs to be warmed up too, for about the same amount of time (10 minutes or so). Warm up for writing can be simply typing out the last page that you already wrote. Or better yet, finish your previous session early without completely finishing off the point, so that in your next session, you can pick up where you left off and just finish the point (i.e., just making the conclusion) before having to embark on developing a whole new point.  One important part of this is that in the first 10-15 minutes, expect to go slower and gradually work yourself up to a good pace.  Don’t just rush right in.

The same goes for the social arts. Set aside some time at the beginning to get yourself in a social mood. Before you head out the door, review your notes, remind yourself of the sticking points you want to work on, watch some exemplars on DVDs, listen to some tunes to get you in the right state. Then when once you’re out the door, make solid eye contact with friendly looking people and start mini-conversations wherever you go. Chat with the taxi driver, the bellman, the clerk at the 7-11, the people waiting in line with you, the bouncer, and the bartender. Ask innocuous questions of strangers on the street for the time or directions. And then do 2-3 “warm up” interactions just to get your socializing muscles warmed up. Expect to set aside this preparation time to get yourself in the rhythm and build momentum.

3.     Get a Private Teacher/Trainer/Coach/Mentor, even if no one else has one.

This made a big difference for me in junior high and high school in music. Even though I went to a high school for the performing arts, surprisingly few of the music students had private, one-on-one teachers. It was mainly because it was relatively expensive and not every family could afford it. I can easily attribute a great deal of my success in music performance to the fact that I had private instruction from the ages of 5-14 in piano and of 12-17 in saxophone.

Even group classes or 2-on-1 won’t cut it. You can learn a lot on your own, just from accessing the internet, DVDs, books, and your peers. But unless you were already naturally gifted to begin with, you will very likely reach a ceiling that no one else you know can get you through. Your teachers and coaches in your team, band, club, or class cannot help you. And this is because at the higher levels, we all have unique sticking points. Probably only less than 1% of people would have that problem. And unless you get individualized, customized, one-on-one feedback from an experienced expert and specialist, you will have an impossible time finding the solution.

For example, I had risen to become one of the best saxophonists in my grade level after just a year and a half of playing on my own and learning from books and from my music class teacher, who was an award-winning and gifted teacher. But then for some strange reason, about 3 out of 10 times, my high D note would just pop up an octave or more, and it would sound like a horrible squeak. I had to play a solo in one of our performances that called for a very loud high D, but I couldn’t nail it because of this bizarre squeaking. I asked everybody I knew and even sought out a private sax teacher at a small music school in the neighborhood, but no one could figure out the problem. This went on for months. It wasn’t until my parents took me to the top music conservatory in the country and to their top saxophone teacher that in literally ten seconds he solved the problem FOREVER. He had me play the note twice, and he immediately diagnosed the problem. It was a mechanical problem that plagued maybe only about 1% of saxophones, and it was easy to fix; you just needed to have an expert eye to diagnose the problem. You better bet I begged my parents to let me take weekly lessons with that guy, even though his rates were the highest in the city. His coaching was instrumental in making me into the best saxophonist of my grade from day one in the performing arts high school, and the best in the entire school by the second year, and arguably one of the top in the country in my age range by the time I graduated from high school.

And it explains a lot of my problems in team sports in junior high and high school.  My needs were so unique in soccer and basketball, etc., because of my martial arts background. I did kung-fu since the age of 5 and Tae Kwon-do from the age of 11.  I often excelled in activities that others did not, whereas I sucked at certain skills that others took for granted.  For example, I made it to the final cut on the junior high soccer team as the goalie, but I kept trying to kick the ball like I was doing Tae Kwondo, haha. And no one ever taught me how to kick a soccer ball properly. I just showed up for try-outs and got through to the final cut purely on my athleticism. Only later, when I was benched basically permanently did I realize that I needed to contact the ball at its lowest point (in other words, drop kick it).  This was so simple, and everybody else took this for granted or didn’t every think about it, but I just needed someone to tell me.

In the social arts, it took me about a year and a half of stumbling around trying lots of different styles and getting tons of conflicting advice and information until finally a really gifted coach pointed out how I could best utilize my current personality strengths (cultured, traveled scholar) to craft an attraction style and then work from there. I eventually came to adopt his pedagogical method of customizing the client’s attraction style to his natural strengths.

And I shouldn’t even have to mention the mountain of materials on the importance of mentorships in business and leadership.

Getting personalized, individualized feedback from an expert mentor, coach, or teacher is crucial to mastering any skillful activity.

4.     Read/Listen/Watch widely and often to examples of the kind of thing you want to do.

Inundate your mind. Train yourself to see the possibilities and reality differently.

This was especially crucial in music. Whenever I talked to a lot of the top jazz musicians in Toronto, one of their first questions to me was, “What are you listening to nowadays?” This was even before they knew anything else about me. It was crucial to be listening all the time to good examples of the sort of music you wanted to play. Those who listened the most, improved the most.

In social arts, this means watching exemplars in movies, TV, DVDs, etc. See my earlier post on Movies. Also important is reading about the lives and inner worlds of your exemplars. In literature, Robert Greene’s Art of Seduction is a good place to start, as he quotes a lot of the relevant literary works.

5.     Small Chunking.

Focus on improving one or two things at a time.

Don’t overwhelm yourself by trying to do too much at one time. Like in music, isolate the few bars that are giving you trouble. Practice those over and over and over until you can nail them perfectly five times in a row. Then move on to the next few bars. Eventually, you can piece everything together and then work on the piece as a whole.

This is the same with everything in life. Divide the task into manageable chunks, and tackle them one by one.

In the social arts, even if your list of sticking points is twenty points long, prioritize them, and then work on them systematically in manageable units. Otherwise, you will become overwhelmed and not master anything.

Also, like Will Smith has said, “I have no idea how people can do more than one thing at a time.” That’s from Will Smith, of all people! This means that if you’re spreading your energies too thinly, you won’t end up mastering or even completing any of them. The most effective route is to focus 90%+ of your energies on just one major goal at a time.

I often have at most three projects running at one time. I have one project that is coming to an end, and I just need to see it through its final stages. I have a second project that I am right in the middle of that is my main focus. And I have a third project that is at a conceptual stage, which I have in the back of my mind as my next main focus. That’s about all my brain can handle at one time and still do a high quality job.

6.     Surround Yourself with the Best, even if that means your competition.

Surround yourself with the best.  Always seek out advice from those ahead of you. Network fearlessly.

This is the importance of a Mastermind group, which also links up to the tip on getting mentors.

Plenty of academic research in psychology and neuroscience has shown that most human beings are basically programmed by all the stimuli around them, especially what we see, hear, and experience others doing. We literally become like the people we surround ourselves with.

Want to know much a person makes a year? Find their five closest friends and average their incomes. That’s the answer.

Want to know how healthy and fit someone is? Find their five closest friends and average their fitness levels.

Want to know what a person’s aspirations are? Find their five closest friends and…

You get the idea. Of course, this isn’t always literally true. Sometimes you need to average their ten or fifteen closest friends, ha.

Sometimes, you find (or are) an outlier. But notice that if you are way beyond your friends in any major area, you are probably going to feel very lonely and “on your own” in that regard. Outliers often become social loners unless they can find a peer group that challenges them. Much more often the case, though, is that the potential outlier gets dragged down to the average of the group.

Seek out and then surround yourself with the best.

7.     Make it a Habit.

Schedule it in. Be consistent. Often just showing up is good enough to get the ball rolling.

With habits, it’s always hardest at the beginning, when you’re still establishing the habit. Once you’ve made the practice a habit, the positive momentum generally carries you along to completion.

8.     Repetition. Repetition. Repetition.

Drill and rehearse at home and in your mind. Even visualizing practice over and over is far better than nothing and, in cases of vivid visualization, can be as effective as real-life practice.

Practice in an environment or context as similar as possible to the one in which you expect to perform. This means that if you will be writing your exam on a fold out desk-chair in room 815, study for your exam on a fold out desk-chair in room 815. Simulate the conditions as closely as possible.

This also touches on Gladwell’s 10,000 hour rule.

9.     Get Wide Exposure to Diverse Reference Experiences.

In the social arts, get experience socializing with different types of people. It’s natural for us to get along with those very similar to us, but try winning over people from diverse walks of life with backgrounds very different from yours. Try different venues and contexts.

Travel widely and get broader viewpoints on people and life. These fresh perspectives are often what trigger originality.

10.     Focus on the process as much as the goal.

Lose yourself in the moment, in the activity. This is related to achieving Flow. When practicing a passage of music, don’t think about how the whole ten-minute piece will sound, just focus on getting the passage right.  When approaching the basket, don’t think about winning the game, just focus on your shot and that particular play. When writing, just focus on the process (what you’re writing right then) without thinking about what the whole thirty-page paper will read like. When socializing, quit wondering whether people like you or not, and instead focus on enjoying yourself and making other people have fun.

Feedback appreciated!

Play on, David

“What do you think of pick up artists?” Singapore TV Interview Finally Uploaded

May 3, 2010

Wow, has it been a long time or what?! I truly appreciate your patience, as I continue with my writing sabbatical. Two major resources that have helped me along in the “art” and “work” of writing have been Seth Godin’s Linchpin and Steven Pressfield’s The War of Art. Both very highly recommended. This year will bring some major changes, which we are currently gearing up for, so keep checking back for the latest. Or better yet, sign up for my mailing list in the top right corner.

I’m going to be making a very big announcement by the end of the week, too, so stay tuned for that!

In the meantime, a friend uploaded the second half of my Razor TV interview (further split into two segments on youtube), which was taped in late 2008, and aired in January 2009. Yes, that was a while ago but better late than never ;-) You can see the first half from the embedded viewer in my About Me page. Feedback here is appreciated. Enjoy!

Excellent Movies for Modeling

February 21, 2010

This is something I’ve been meaning to do for a long time, and in fact, this is just the tip of the iceberg. I used movie scenes a lot in my visualization exercises. Eventually, I’ll put up actual clips. But for now, I’ll post here the movie titles.
In my mind, I have them mostly organized by actor so that’s how my list will be mainly organized. So here they are in alphabetical order by surname.
I will probably add to this list as I think of more, so check back. Also I welcome your feedback :-)
-Javier Bardem in Vicky Cristina Barcelona
-James Bond (pretty much any of these movies; the scene by Craig on the train sitting across from the female agent is excellent)
-Vinny Chase in the Entourage HBO series. Also for shorter archetypes, his friend-manager, E, is a good role-model.
-George Clooney in the Ocean’s series
-Tom Cruise (Top Gun, Days of Thunder, Collateral). Do NOT emulate him in Eyes Wide Shut, though the Hungarian guy’s tonality in EWS is fantastic.
-Johnny Depp (Pirates series in how he flirts with the female lead, Don Juan de Marco, The Libertine)
-Daniel Day Lewis in Last of the Mohicans
-Robert Downey Jr. in Iron Man
-David Duchovny in Californication
-Clark Gable in Gone with the Wind
-John Malkovitch in Dangerous Liaisons
-Jack Nicholson in The Witches of Eastwick
-Clive Owen in Elizabeth
-Robert Pattinson for the tortured “artist” archetype in the Twilight series.
-Ryan Phillipe in Cruel Intentions
-Brad Pitt (Fight Club, Meet Joe Black, Ocean’s series)
-Ryan Reynolds in Van Wilder
-Mickey Rourke in 9 1/2 Weeks
-Campbell Scott in Rodger Dodger
-Vince Vaughn (Swingers, Wedding Crashers)
-Anything with Russell Brand is money.
Btw, yes, I’m still working hard on those writing projects.
Play on, The Asian Rake

My Appearance on AXN’s The Duke

August 25, 2009

This was from a few months ago, when I was featured in an episode of AXN Asia’s The Duke. The filming took place in the winter. It was all sort of tongue-in-cheek, and we had a lot of good laughs.

The show’s hosts–Rovilson, Marc, and Eunice–were tremendous fun, totally laidback, professional, and down to earth, without any airs. And the after party was off the hook.

Thanks are due to LL for helping me burn the DVD and edit it into this clip. Enjoy!

My TV Panel on Singapore Girls

August 10, 2009

Here’s a fun TV show that was filmed a long time ago, but it has only just been released. You can find them on the Razor TV site here.

I’ve embedded below the last two segments and the first segment. You can see the influence of my friend, Zan, in episode 7 and of Brad P. in episode 8.

I was on a bit of a caffeine high from a big cup of Starbucks coffee right before and during this Razor TV interview. Watching the clips now, I notice I was talking pretty fast, probably too fast for my Singaporean audience, which is probably not used to my Canadian accent, LOL.

Having said that, this TV filming with Jamie Yeo, Melissa, and Bryan was a lot of fun to do, and we had plenty to talk about. Enjoy! Feedback and flaming are welcome.

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