Honesty as the Cornerstone of Attraction and How to Demolish Your Deepest Insecurities in Dating: 21 Convention Full Talk with Outline

The original title of the talk was, “Honesty as the Cornerstone of Attraction.” I think that title still best encapsulates the content of the talk, but an attendee wrote in and said that as a result of my talk, he learned how to demolish his deepest insecurities, and I thought that’d be a catchier title.

This is the full video of my talk at the 21 Convention in Melbourne last year. I had a lot of fun meeting some wonderful people, including the organiser, Anthony Johnson, and the MC, Steve Mayeda, as well as many others. A big “Thank You” to Anthony, Steve, and the team for their gracious invitation!

Here’s the video:

This is the outline I gave out as a hand-out. It should come in handy as you watch the video.

OUTLINE

1. Inner

Psychological Archaeology

• Use R&R (Reflection and Reframing) to overcome Limiting Beliefs (LB)

• LB => True or False

• If False, then Reflect, Research, and Condition

• If True, then can you change it? Yes or No?

• If Yes, change it!

• If No, then Reframe, Research, and Condition

2. Outer

A=S+H

Being Attractive = Emotional Strength + Honest

-Cyclical Process of a) becoming strong and b) expressing yourself honestly

-Former accomplished through repeated attempts at the latter

“Being yourself ” requires that you first “know yourself ”

Honesty is necessary for…

a) Coming to terms with all your current weaknesses

b) Discovering and deciding who you really want to be

-You feel inside when something’s off

-Genuine “Game”

Know Thyself => What emotions are you feeling and why?

-Be comfortable and content with your flaws

-Admit to yourself and others

Emotion = Judgement/Thought/Belief/Interpretation + Phenomenology

 

You can get the mp3 download of the talk by clicking here.

You can also download the video here if you want an offline version of the talk.

And here is the reddit link regarding the talk.

Please share with your friends!

Also, I would love to hear your feedback on the talk, so write it here in the comments or email me: david “at” auradating.com

Get it done. Get it handled.

Best,

David

Dating Coach David Tian, Ph.D., Interviews Richard La Ruina (Gambler) of PUA Training: “Inside the Players’ Lounge,” Episode 7, Parts 1-4

It was a real pleasure interviewing Richard when he visited Singapore and the Academy last month.

I don’t like “pick up artists,” but although Richard directs a company called PUA Training, he’s entirely an upstanding guy, grounded and wholesome, and the sort of guy you’d be comfortable introducing to your mom or sister. Like some of the other coaches featured in this series, he’s associated with a company that markets itself as offering “pick up” skills training, but he himself is no longer concerned with picking up women, but rather about improving his long-term relationships, overall lifestyle, and especially lately, boxing and MMA :-)

Inside the Players’ Lounge is a series of interviews of top dating coaches and social artists who are Asian, are based in Asia, or have a deep interest in Asia and its women.

In this episode, I interview Richard La Ruina (Gambler), head of PUA Training, the most prominent dating skills company in the UK.

Richard La Ruina is the author of The Natural Art of Seduction which made the Amazon.co.uk best sellers list, and has been featured on programs for BBC, ITV, Channel 4, Channel 5, and plays himself in the upcoming film “We Need to Talk About Kieran”. He has personally led over 120 weekend training events, trained over 100 Residential students, and been a guest speaker at many seduction conferences throughout the world. Visit the PUA Training site here.

Some of the lessons you’ll learn in this 1st part of the interview include…

* Learn how a depressed, unhappy, insecure guy who was bullied and got bad grades in school turned himself into the director of one of the top dating skills companies in the world, PUA Training

* How moving to a different city can help you improve your dating success, and how to get almost all the same advantages while remaining in your home city

* How having flatmates can accelerate your dating success

* What two of the top dating coaches in the world think of “pick up artists” and the “PUA movement”


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Some of the lessons you’ll learn in this 2nd part of the interview include…

* How you can use overseas travel to improve your dating and social skills

* Whether money makes a difference when it comes to dating women in Singapore or elsewhere in the world, and how YOU can get many of the same benefits and advantages even if you don’t have much money

* What’s the ONE most valuable thing a man can have in the dating world… and it doesn’t cost a penny.

* How you can make your life more exciting and adventurous and the mindset change that will give you that sexy “bad boy” factor that many women find irresistible


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Some of the lessons you’ll learn in this part of the 3rd interview include…

* What is unique or different about dating in Singapore versus dating in the UK or the USA, and why it’s important to understand these

* Whether talking about sex is taboo in Singapore, and how this can affect your dating life

* How you can learn dating success from Hollywood heart throbs


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Some of the lessons you’ll learn in this part of the interview include…

* How to use your Facebook profile to help your dating success

* How to have a happy, fulfilling, successful long-term relationship even when you’ve lived like a player for many years

* Whether sleeping with more women can truly bring you happiness

Singapore “Dating Coach” Xavier See and Troy Dizon: When Failure Begets Failure

This bit of news is HILARIOUS. But I doubt my readership outside Singapore will care much about this one, so I’ll keep it short.

Xavier See in action

The sub-title says it all: When failure begets failure.

I was just forwarded these links today, though I’m late to this news, it seems. I wasn’t surprised. Those in Singapore might have picked up that my earlier posts on the “local dating coach” scene primarily had this guy, Xavier See, in mind. It kind of explains all the bizarre bullshit coming from Xavier See lately.

It seems he breached his contract and back-stabbed his mentor. I don’t know the details, but you can read more about it on Troy Dizon’s site (his mentor for 4+ years) here:

Xavier See retrenched by Troy Dizon and 247 Attractive Man for conflict of interest.

Troy Dizon’s podcast on retrenching Xavier See.

While I don’t agree with or support Dizon’s teachings or style, I think it’s clear how these boys acted to him is pretty despicable. But that’s what you get when you work with unethical, untrustworthy, and immature people.

Quotes from the podcast by the laughable wannabe pick up artist Troy Dizon: “Who the f*ck is Laveen?… Laveen [Lalwani] and Jiron [Tan] are one (sic) of the worst students I’ve ever had in Troy Dizon Dating history. These are one (sic) of my worst students! These are the guys who did not succeed during their bootcamps and even moving forward… Suddenly, he’s Xavier’s self-appointed right hand man. I mean, seriously, who is Laveen?… That’s really f*cked up.”

Well, anyone who’s any good in the social arts can tell how bad these guys are right away from just seeing them in person. I kind of felt sorry for them thinking they were beginners stuck forever in beginners’ hell until I heard on this podcast that they’ve been charging other guys money for coaching! Geez, the barrier to entry in this industry is way too low. Pretty funny how Dizon lost it, LOL.

About Glen Liu, “[This guy] is some sort of promoter person… Glen Liu and Xavier were, like, ‘Hey guys, we got you into Butter Factory… You don’t have to pay cover.’ … Oh wow, that’s great. We’ve done this numerous times for Xavier in the past… Glen Liu and they (sic) got a table… They ordered a sh*tload of drinks… I didn’t even sit on that table… And you know I don’t drink, especially when I’m working. And all their friends drank all those drinks… We (i.e., Troy and his friend) didn’t even take a sip of those drinks. The next day, this Glen Liu was charging us $75 each because he let us in to Butter Factory, because he bought a lot of alcohol that he and his friends drank… Absolutely one of their crew guys who should not be trusted is this Glen Liu.”

LOL!

Xavier See approached me after I arrived in Singapore in July 2008, and he was just a kid trying to be a pick up artist in the local Singapore lair. This kind of scheming and manipulation was endemic in that lair (known at the time as the “public Singapore lair”). Eventually, RazorTV’s documentary on pick up artists revealed how amateur all of these guys were, including Xavier and the lair guys.

When failure begets failure…

Ah, laughing at the misfortunes of others, LOL… I should stop now.

For even more amusing quotes, check out that podcast.

Best, David

Do You Want to Have BETTER Results with Women in under Six Months Than Even Other “Dating Coaches” in Singapore Get?

I’m right in the middle of another amazing Attraction Accelerated Weekend Workshop. Working closely with clients in a 2:1 or 1:1 situation and giving them tons of personal attention is really one of the most rewarding kinds of teaching I enjoy.

In the past few weeks, I’ve been blessed with an extraordinarily interesting set of clients. One is a medical doctor serving with Doctors Without Borders who has just been far too busy with his work life to learn the dating game. He inspired me to start scheduling my next Dating Skills Training for Charity session, so look out for that in the near future. I feel like I’ve learned as much from him as he did from me.

I’ve also had the privilege of coaching a philosopher from an Ivy League university. Ah, philosophy and the ivory tower. A man after my own heart, ha. It was refreshing revisiting that part of my identity and helping a man who thinks analytically like me. Most rewarding was how he assimilated all the knowledge so quickly and came ready to learn and put his ego on the line and himself well outside his comfort zone.

Working with such inspiring clients motivates me to think more deeply about how to reach the hundreds of thousands of men who could use my help if only they believed that it were even possible to improve one’s dating skills and facility in the social arts.

That’s something I’ve been thinking about a lot: How to help the general public understand that no matter how tough the dating world is, you don’t have to rely on luck, being good-looking, or being rich. There’s actually a system for attracting women that YOU CAN LEARN.

In spreading this message to a wider audience in Asia and Singapore, I’ve encountered a minor obstacle, which has grown increasingly annoying over time. The rest of this post is about this little stumbling block in Singapore.

I’ve recently learned a lot about the local dating coach companies. Not only have I had alumni from every major international dating coach company come to me for coaching after taking up to 7 different bootcamps (yes, one poor chap had already taken 7 bootcamps before finally coming to me and getting things handled), but I’ve had alumni from every single one of the current local dating coach companies come to me for professional training after failing to reach their goals with the cheaper local alternatives. And they’ve been pointing out to me a lot of bad things these local dating coach companies are doing to scam their customers.

Read no further if you’re interested in any of the following (btw, one of the local amateur “dating coach” companies is guilty of ALL of the following):

  • Becoming a Singaporean “dating coach” but just relying on techniques and tactics taught by your coaching boss in America that offend or turn off high quality women in Asia and Singapore
  • Dancing in a circle with only five dudes, staring at each other the whole night, pumping each other up as if you’re doing something cool but not talking to a single hot girl all night
  • Bragging about “owning the club” and your “killer dance floor routines” when any hot girl you talked to was either disgusted by you or laughing AT you, and you didn’t even realize it
  • Boasting about your awesome pimp lifestyle when you still have to wait at the bus stop for the night bus so you can take the bus home after clubbing, alone
  • Surrounding and manhandling girls by trying to grab them and drag them away whilst they protest and do NOT want anything to do with you, but you mistakenly think you’re the pimp (yes, one of the cheap local companies have been doing just this in clubs in Singapore)
  • Paying low rates to get a short-lived high from a crap bootcamp (“You pay peanuts, you get monkeys”) but then have to eventually ante up and go to a high quality professional to get the job done
  • Bragging about a “five-girl mega-pull” of easy girls (I know, it’s as juvenile as it sounds) on video, proudly announcing you’re sleeping with other men’s old wives, and posting photos of real (plain-looking) girls online without their permission… Have some class, dude.

If that doesn’t describe you, then you’ll definitely want to read on…

I’ve been working professionally in this field since 2007, longer than any other in-field dating coach in Singapore. And I’ve been Director of Singapore’s biggest and best dating academy for almost nine months now.

I can say with complete confidence that many of my clients who have taken my 1:1 Platinum Programs, 2:1 and 3:1 bootcamps, and a number of our advanced Aura Dating Academy students are already getting BETTER results and have SUPERIOR SKILLS in dating than the local dating coaches in Singapore, many of whom are young and immature. In fact, my greatest competition in Singapore isn’t the local dating coaches. It’s my own alumni who might set up shop and offer a cheaper alternative! I’m just fortunate they all have successful careers in other professions, ha. Check out some of my clients’ reports here.

I am 100% confident in claiming that ALL of my Elite Exclusive clients are getting better results, have superior skills, and lead more successful lifestyles than the local dating coaches in Singapore.

Whenever I talk with other prominent dating consultants around the world, they are always shocked that these amateur, low-level dating coaches in Singapore even have clients. I’ve been telling them that the market here is new and men in Singapore lack knowledge about the industry and don’t know their options or how to tell the good from the bad. Many of them don’t even know about the New York Times-bestselling book by Neil Strauss!

I’ve been bemoaning Singapore’s consumer ignorance of this field for three years now, and it’s about time I helped the local Singapore consumer gain knowledge about the industry and offer him some consumer education. The directors of other big dating skills companies overseas tell me not to even bother thinking about these local pretenders, most of whom are young and immature. And I haven’t been. Until recently, that is, when I saw how much they are misleading naive consumers in Singapore.

Consider instead these options:

*If you want only the best for yourself, and you want the ability to have threesomes, foursomes, and same-day hook-ups with bikini models, beauty pageant winners, and the hottest women in the country, then you’ll want to check out my 1:1 private coaching programs—the Platinum Program and the Elite Exclusive. They run from 6-weeks to 6-months. These are my highest priced programs, and they are the most expensive private coaching programs in Asia. These are more than twice the rate of what other local dating coaches are offering, but with me, you’ll get more than a hundred times the value. After the first thirty hours of 1:1 coaching sessions with me, you’ll already be better equipped and more experienced than any of the local dating coaches in Singapore. All 1:1 private coaching programs come with a complimentary Academy membership for the duration of the program. To find out more about Private Coaching for Dating in Singapore, click here.

*If you want to just get major results right away, then you should take one of our group bootcamps: The Attraction Accelerated Weekend Workshop. Yes, it’s the teaching format that every other dating skills company is offering, including all the local Singapore companies. But I do it better. A lot better. The ratio of student to instructor for these are often better than 2:1, as I enlist the best Approach Coaches in Singapore to help instruct you in-field. These are currently at a promotional rate, and they come with a 100% MONEY-BACK GUARANTEE. To find out more about this option on a Singapore Dating Bootcamp: Attraction Accelerated Weekend Workshop, click here. You can also read client reviews at third-party dating skills websites, such as this one.

*Your lowest cost option, but arguably the highest value option, is an annual membership at Aura Dating Academy. Granted, by the time you finish the second of four levels (usually the 6-month mark), already you will be better than the local dating coaches in Singapore, so maybe we are overshooting here, ha. Regardless, it’s your lowest cost option for live, in-person, high quality coaching that will get you the skills and mindsets to be better than any of the other local dating coaches themselves. Have a look at a sample of our core curriculum, and you’ll see what I mean.

All of our dating skills programs come with a money-back guarantee, so you really have absolutely nothing to lose.

I especially recommend the Aura Dating Academy annual membership, as those who complete the second of four levels will already be getting better results and have superior skills than the local dating coaches in Singapore. Check out the Academy’s webpage here and visit the Aura Dating Academy facebook fan page here.

I know a lot of guys are curious about the Academy membership, so I’ll post more about it in the coming days. So check back soon :-D

Respectfully,

David

How to be Social: What to Think When You’re Approaching and Meeting New Women–The Attraction Mindset (video)

Want to get better with women but also avoid being one of those creepy pick up guys who brag about “pulling chicks” or getting numbers from girls at bars, bookstores, or city streets? Then you should cultivate the simple and easy ATTRACTION MINDSET. It also a great way to learn how to be social and the best mindset to have when you’re just trying to be social.

As usual, the video is only very lightly edited.

Credit to Sebastian Drake for giving me the correct focus many years ago.

The Attraction Mindset:
1. Have Fun
2. Make Others Have Fun
3. Make Connections and See If People Meet Your Standards

These 3 points should take up at least 90% of your mental processes when you’re out to meet new people. For more on this idea, check out my post on Outcome Independence and How to Have Fun.

The Social Arts according to “The Karate Kid”: 3 Major Lessons

When I saw the remake of the cult classic, The Karate Kid, a couple weeks ago, I was reminded of why the original movie was so often mentioned in self-improvement circles and why that rake Nick Sparks was unashamed to pronounce that he is this movie’s number one fan, lol.

Both the original and the 2010 remake, starring Jackie Chan and Jaden Smith (son of Will Smith and Jada Pinkett-Smith), hold a lot of lessons for guys who are learning the social arts. Why not use pop culture–stuff guys are already watching–to teach higher level principles, which are usually expressed in a recondite and overly abstract manner, and to present them in a more accessible format? Haha, this is a fun article I’ve been meaning to do for a while actually, even before the remake came out.

If you haven’t seen the 2010 remake yet, I highly recommend it. The portrayal of Beijing and the mountain monasteries in China is not as romanticized as most Hollywood depictions, though the most modernized and glitziest parts of Beijing never figured in any of the scenes.

The 2010 remake trailer:

Yes. Indulge me for a minute ;-)

3 Lessons

1. Check Your Preconceptions at the Door, and Start from Scratch

Early in the movie, we see Jaden Smith’s character (I forgot the character’s name, so I’m just going to refer to him as Jaden) trying to learn martial arts from DVDs. Jackie Chan’s character (again, forgot the character’s name, so will refer to him as Chan) sees this while fixing something in Jaden’s apartment and realizes that there is very little chance Jaden will be able to learn martial arts from DVDs.

Well, ya gotta start somewhere. And as most guys out there, I too had my introduction from paperbacks, ebooks, audio programs, and DVDs. But I was fortunate enough to have real life mentors early on–guys like Christian Hudson and Sebastian Drake–guide me in person. Otherwise, I would have been stuck like Jaden or Daniel-san, trying to learn from a TV screen.

Later, when Jaden went to his first kung-fu lesson by Chan, the first thing Jaden did was to explain to Chan that he already knew some fighting moves and was naturally athletic, so he “wasn’t as bad as the average guy,” and that “it would be easier to teach him than to teach the average kid off the street.” Jaden proceeded to (try to) demonstrate some of what he could do and ended up making a mess, breaking Chan’s vase.

Instead of acknowledging any current abilities that Jaden might have already had, Chan ignored Jaden’s ego-protecting attempts at self-qualification and set for him the mundane task of having Jaden throw down and then hang up his jacket over and over and over for nights in a row. At the time, Jaden thought that Chan was trying to punish him for his bad attitude (related to an earlier scene involving Smith’s mother) and did not think Chan was teaching him anything about kung-fu.

As I recall, in the original movie, Mr. Miyagi had to ignore Daniel-san’s tendency to think he already knew what he was doing and to force Daniel to learn from the ground up, from scratch. He had to do this even when Daniel progressed to the level of punching with gloves and protective gear.

When it comes to working with an experienced personal coach on an individual basis, don’t worry about making sure the coach knows what you can already do. If he’s an experienced, competent coach, he will be able to figure out for himself pretty quickly how good you are. Master coaches and even some naturals can tell within a few minutes how good a guy is with women. And if he needs any further information, he will know the right questions to ask. You don’t have to offer any explanations. In fact, the guys who waste time continually telling the trainers how good they already are (or were) and relating lengthy stories that were unsolicited are usually guys whose attitudes make them unteachable.

Often, students have to spend an initial period UNLEARNING all the mish mash of jumbled misconceptions and misinterpretations before they can actually understand and apply the correct stuff.

So instead, approach the learning with an open mind, and leave your preconceived notions at the door. Try to do exactly as your trainer instructs you FIRST before you start trying to think of reasons why it won’t work or devising “what if” scenarios. Otherwise, you will just be wasting your and their time. Try out their suggestions first, and give them a fair try. Only then come back for reflection and refinement.

As Miyagi said, to Daniel: “We make sacred pact. I promise teach karate to you. You promise learn. I say. You do. No questions.”

2. Be Patient with Progress; the “Why” Will Become Clear over Time

Master teachers know that if the student’s mindset is just as, if not more, important than the technique. That’s why Chan didn’t tell Jaden why he had him throw down and hang up his jacket over and over, and why Mr. Miyagi did not first tell Daniel-san why he had him wax his car, paint his fence, and sand his floor.

When kids want to learn martial arts, it’s often because they want to know how to fight. But that’s not really what’s best for them in the long run. The bad teachers in The Karate Kid movies just give the kids what they want (partly because that’s what the instructors are after, too): violence and aggression. But the real masters know that true mastery of any skillful activity in life necessitates and generates a higher outlook and greater purpose.

In the social arts, a lot of guys start out just wanting to bed a lot of girls with perhaps a very distant long-term goal of settling down with one or many long-term relationships or a spouse. Their immediate focus is on getting more and more sex–same night lays, faster and faster seductions, models and bottles, orgies galore–and that’s what a lot of the PUA marketing sells them. But the true masters know that these short-term gratifications will never result in any kind of lasting happiness or even contentment.

But they also know that most students aren’t ready to understand this.

So instead of trying to persuade them, a good coach might mislead or keep the student guessing as to the exact reason or greater purpose behind the lesson, at least until the student is ready to understand.

Most guys don’t really understand just how important are Body Language, Tonality, Eye Contact, and Mental States. They are far more important than verbal material or lines. Students often don’t really understand why they have to spend over 80% of their time working on and monitoring their posture; the way they stand, sit, move, walk, chew, talk; how they look into other people’s eyes; and why they have to do Visualizations and Affirmations daily; and most importantly, that they should focus mainly only on 3 things when they’re socializing: Having Fun; Making Other People Have Fun; and Making Connections.

Instead, they keep thinking their problem is that they don’t know what to say. It’s like those guys who think their problem is they don’t know how to punch and keep wanting to learn how to punch.

Daniel: When do I learn how to punch?
Miyagi: Better learn balance. Balance is key. Balance good, karate good. Everything good. Balance bad, better pack up, go home. Understand?

Daniel: [practicing blocks in Mr. Miyagi's boat] When am I gonna learn how to punch?
Miyagi: Learn how punch, after you learn how keep dry! [rocks boat, throwing Daniel into the water]

For instance, sometimes, what a guy most needs is to conquer his approach anxiety. But because of his crippling fear, he can’t tackle the problem head on by doing a ton of cold approaches. So instead, the coach tricks him into thinking he’s doing something else other than approaching–doing social freedom exercises like small talk with harmless strangers or doing crazy stunts on the street–and then eases the student into raising the bar to small talk with cute girls, bypassing the anxiety triggers.

This is the “boiling the frog” method.

3. The Social Arts are in Everything; Start with What You Naturally Do

Probably the most obvious parallel between The Karate Kid and debates in the social arts is in the natural vs. canned issue.

I doubt I need to explain this. It should be obvious.

The bad karate teacher is all about ruthless technique and using artificial means to toughen his kids up and brainwash them into being bad monsters.

Miyagi and Chan, however, teach their students using everyday actions–the sort of things they would naturally have to do as part of their daily activities–chores around the house and even just something as mundane as hanging up a jacket.

The deeper principle is in Jackie Chan’s line: “Everything is Kung Fu.” Or, “Kung Fu is in everything you do.”

Similarly, the social arts aren’t just for attracting women, though many guys only think of it in that narrowest of scopes–”pick up.” The social arts are involved any time you are interacting with another person. Practicing the social arts requires and develops social intelligence and emotional intelligence, which many researchers and experts consider to be far more accurate an indicator of life success than one’s IQ.

Almost all the skills involved in flirting with women are implicated and crossover in the skills required for socializing PERIOD. They are just adapted to a specific context. So actually, if you get good at and continue to improve at socializing in general–which is actually easier for most guys–and in many different and diverse contexts, you will concurrently progress in attracting women. As most PUAs often forget, women are people, too, LOL. Get good with people, and you will naturally get good with women.

Moreover, you will be doing so in a much more sustainable, healthy (read: non-creepy), and effective manner.

This bit of dialogue in the original movie sums it up nicely. Substitute “picking up girls” for “fighting” and “the social arts” for “karate,” and you get the idea:

Let “fighting”=”picking up girls”

Let “karate”=”The Social Arts”

Daniel: Hey – you ever get into fights when you were a kid?
Miyagi: Huh – plenty.
Daniel: Yeah, but it wasn’t like the problem I have, right?
Miyagi: Why? Fighting fighting. Same same.
Daniel: Yeah, but you knew karate.
Miyagi: Someone always know more.
Daniel: You mean there were times when you were scared to fight?
Miyagi: Always scare. Miyagi hate fighting.
Daniel: Yeah, but you like karate.
Miyagi: So?
Daniel: So, karate’s fighting. You train to fight.
Miyagi: That what you think?
Daniel: [pondering] No.
Miyagi: Then why train?
Daniel: [thinks] So I won’t have to fight.
Miyagi: [laughs] Miyagi have hope for you.

Thanks for reading along on my whimsical reflections! David have hope for you ;-) LOL  Feedback appreciated.

Cheers, Asian Rake David.

The original trailer:

Comic relief for the holiday season

Merry Christmas to you and your loved ones!

On a totally unrelated note, I thought you’d appreciate seeing this hilarious clip by Russell Brand, a renowned rake himself. I especially like the part where he reads out the hate mail people send to him. Puts mine in perspective, LOL. Enjoy!

The Last of the Mohicans

Haven’t seen this movie in many years, but saw it on DVD recently. Awesome. Add it to your list.

It’s got so many great elements from an attraction arts standpoint: Exemplary body language and tonality. Great eye contact. The right dose of alpha male masculinity. Wonderful frame control and cocky dialogue. A perfect juxtaposition of the Provider archetype (Major Heyward), who tries to appeal through reason and logic, and the Lover archetype (Hawkeye played by Daniel Day-Lewis), who fires up her passion through unconscious attraction triggers.

Check it out: The Academy Award winning “The Last of the Mohicans.”

The 7 Commandments on How to Deal with NBTD (Nothing Better To Do), aka., Full-time Idiots

Just when I thought there was too much random clutter coming to me via twitter, I got Tim Ferriss’s notice that he’s updated his classic and entertaining blog post on how to handle full-time idiots, something that every public figure must learn at some point.

Check it out here.

I have Facebook stalkers…

And they just keep popping up, lol.

Be vigilant with your privacy settings and don’t tag your photos unless you want jealous guys and creepy, psychologically disturbed community guys tracking down your girls, messaging them, and spreading malicious rumors about you, including false information about how you run your day 2s and who you are currently seeing (wow, a little too close for comfort).

Singaporeans don’t have paparazzi; they have the creepy lair guy… who writes ungrammatical English, lol

As you make a name for yourself, you’ll have to get used to this; it comes with the territory. It’s almost inevitable that some random creepy guys out there will be so ego-driven, simultaneously so full of pride and envy that they will obsess over you. You barely even know of their existence, but they spend every waking moment obsessing over you. LOL. It sounds scary, but it’s actually more pitiful than anything else.

Not all community guys are creepy, of course, but you never know who you are really dealing with… (cue scary music, lol).

Back to our regularly scheduled programming.

Play on, The Asian Rake.