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Category Archives for Asian-American Activism

How to Create Attraction–The Right Way (Podcast Interview)

I just did this intense podcast interview with Alec Chase over at Men’s Dating Mastery. In this interview, some of the points we cover include how neuroscience can help your sex life, how to cultivate emotional strength, how to express yourself honestly, solutions to the challenges faced by Asian men dating in the West, and…a […]

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The Manifesto: How to Become a Sexually Attractive Asian Man–Independent (Part 4)

Too many people settle in life, spending their lives doing only what is expected of them. Most of society settles into a routine in their mid-twenties. And that routine does not change for the next forty years. It’s deadening. It will suck your life force dry and women will see it. No woman wants to […]

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Interview About The Desire System On Dating Skills Review

Check out this brand new interview with Angel Donovan at Dating Skills Review on the lessons in The Desire System video course, especially emotional contagion. Scientific research clearly demonstrates the potential power our emotions have over others. It shows that emotions can indeed be contagious. In this interview, we explore this theme, some of the […]

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Honesty as the Cornerstone of Attraction and How to Demolish Your Deepest Insecurities in Dating: 21 Convention Full Talk with Outline

The original title of the talk was, “Honesty as the Cornerstone of Attraction.” I think that title still best encapsulates the content of the talk, but an attendee wrote in and said that as a result of my talk, he learned how to demolish his deepest insecurities, and I thought that’d be a catchier title. […]

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The Manifesto: How to Become a Sexually Attractive Asian Man–Assertiveness (Part 1 of 2)

Assertiveness the Passive Aggressive Asian Push-Over Before diving into a detailed description of Assertiveness, let’s first get clear on the problem. Too many Asian men fall into the trap of being passive-aggressive Asian push-overs. To help you better understand what this means, here’s an example that is common in nightclubs in Asia: In a hip […]

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The Manifesto: How to Become a Sexually Attractive Asian Man–Adventurous and Easygoing (Part 6 of 6)

This is Part 6 and the last part in this section. To read from Part 1 of this section on being adventurous and easygoing, click here. To read the Introduction to the Manifesto, click here. How to Have It All Now you want to know how you can do this, how you can have it […]

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The Manifesto: How to be a Sexually Attractive Asian Man–Adventurous and Easygoing (Part 5)

This is Part 5 in the series. To read from Part 1 of this section on being adventurous and easygoing, click here. To read the Introduction to the Manifesto, click here. Easygoing: Becoming Cool, and the Difference between Assertiveness and Aggressiveness Paradoxically, being adventurous and being easygoing go hand-in-hand. Because you are laid-back and don’t […]

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The Manifesto: How to Become a Sexually Attractive Asian Man–Adventurous and Easygoing (Part 4)

This is Part 4 in a series. To read from Part 1 of this section on being adventurous and easygoing, click here. To read the Introduction to the Manifesto, click here. Overcoming Fear Often, adventure isn’t adventurous without some element of risk and fear. To become an adventurous person, you’ve got to get used to […]

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The Manifesto: How to Become a Sexually Attractive Asian Man–Adventurous and Easygoing (Part 3)

Becoming Adventurous In a poignant scene of the Martin Scorsese film, Hugo, the main character–an orphaned boy–remarked that he wanted to do something, to which the female lead–his “love” interest–replied, “No, it’s too dangerous. We could get into trouble.” To this the heroic boy replied, That’s how we know it’s an adventure! To have an […]

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The Manifesto: How to Become a Sexually Attractive Asian Man–Adventurous and Easygoing (Part 2)

Developing Independence and Eliminating Approval-Seeking Behaviour The next installment in our Manifesto series! To read from the Introduction, click here. To read from the start of the this section on being Adventurous and Easygoing, click here. So you grew up with strict, demanding parents and ended up with an approval-seeking personality, especially from women. You’re […]

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The Manifesto: How to Become a Sexually Attractive Asian Man–Adventurous and Easygoing (Part 1)

The sexually attractive man–no matter his race–is a leader, assertive, sexual, and adventurous and easy going. Now let’s look in more detail at the last two traits: Adventurous and Easygoing. For the Introduction to this series, click here. For the first part of the series, which was on Leadership, click here. We know that women […]

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The Manifesto: How to Become a Sexually Attractive Asian Man–Leadership (Part 2/3)

For the introduction to the series on being a Sexually Attractive Asian Man, click here. For Part 1 of “Leadership” in this series, click here. Onto Part 2 of “Leadership”: Now let’s be clearer and examine actual real-life examples of such elite, sexually attractive Asian men. Let’s look at history first, because by the time […]

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The Manifesto: How to Become a Sexually Attractive Asian Man–Leadership (Part 1/3)

In the Introduction, I stated that an attractive, sexually successful Asian male is assertive, adventurous and easy going. He is also highly sexual, and perhaps foremost, the sexually attractive Asian male is a leader. To see the Introduction, click here. From talking to countless Singaporeans about this, I’ve discovered that some in Singapore think being […]

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The MANIFESTO: How to become a Sexually Attractive Asian Man–Introduction

The Asian man is a bit of an underdog in the modern dating world. While he possesses many qualities that might help him to be a good husband, these qualities are often overlooked by women who are initially looking for hot dating material, not husbands. You, as an Asian man, need to understand the feelings […]

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The Plight of Asian Masculinity: Singapore supervisor caught on video slapping 29 year-old intern–are you kidding me?

Hidden camera footage from Singapore of a nerdy-looking supervisor abusively bitch-slapping his intern has gone viral and was even taken down by Youtube apparently for “violating their policies on violence and disturbing content” (I’ve seen a lot worse on Youtube), according to the International Business Times. No doubt, the abusive supervisor should be punished. So […]

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How to Gain Weight and Muscle for Skinny Guys: What the Military Can Teach Us

Let’s face it. Guys in Singapore tend to be skinnier than the world average. This is consistent with the rest of the Southeast Asian area, so it wasn’t all that noticeable until recently with the sharp influx of imported, foreign professionals and executives, many from Western countries. While being skinnier is not necessarily a bad […]

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Be Easygoing: Relax, It Could Help Spread Your Genes

Among the many personality traits that most women consider attractive in a man, there are five traits that most men raised in an Asian cultural setting, whether in an Asian country or in a culturally conservative Asian home in the West, tend to lack more than men in the West: Assertiveness, Adventurousness, Group Leadership, Being […]

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Dating Coach David Tian, Ph.D., Interviews Future of Love Systems: “Inside the Players’ Lounge,” Episode 6, Parts 1-3

Inside the Players’ Lounge, Episode 6, Parts 1-3 Inside the Players’ Lounge is a series of interviews of top dating coaches and social artists who are Asian, are based in Asia, or have a deep interest in Asia and its women. In this episode, David Tian, Ph.D., interviews Future (real name: Thompson), the most senior […]

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Singapore Dating Coach David Tian, Ph.D., Interviews Alumnus Lion: Inside the Players’ Lounge, Episode 4, Part 1

Inside the Players’ Lounge, Episode 4, Part 1: Interview with Lion This episode touches on a favorite topic of mine: That the qualities that many Asians mistakenly take to be “Asian thought” or “Asian culture” or “Asian philosophy” are actually not at all what elite Asians throughout history have believed or how they have behaved. […]

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Inside the Players’ Lounge, Episode 3: David Tian, Ph.D., Interviews Asian Dating Coach Bonsai of Love Systems, Part 5/5

In this episode, David Tian, Ph.D., Executive Director of Aura Dating Academy in Singapore, interviews another of the world’s top Asian dating coaches, Bonsai of Love Systems. Bonsai grew up in The Netherlands but had a strict Asian upbringing. He was exposed to both Asian and Western values, causing him to have conflicting beliefs when […]

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