How Can I Get Girls when I’m Asian, Short, Too Young, or [insert limiting belief here]?
May 23, 2011
The Aura Dating Academy Private Forum is rockin’! There is so much great content there, I can barely keep up.
One frequent contributor is Approach Coach and former client Lt. Walker. Being a Singaporean of Indian descent, he recently wrote his thoughts on Limiting Beliefs having to do with race, height, age, or whatever. Without further ado…
Hey, just want to share my thoughts on stereotypes. David and i were briefly discussing it, and i thought I’d like to pen down my thoughts.
I’m an Indian guy and growing up in Singapore has not been the easiest for me. (Despite having a low crime rate, Singapore is not as harmonious a society as the government wants you to believe; there is plenty of “below the radar” racism here). Say whatever you want but racism is still an underlying factor in Singapore. It might not be so obvious but the negative racial stereotypes are everywhere– Indians being alcoholics, Malays being broke, Chinese being stingy, etc., still goes on.
Back in school it was really tough for me. I was constantly made fun of by mates, like, “Dude, you think a black guy like you could get a chick? Maybe if you became Michael Jackson white.” When i was younger, I got made fun of a lot like this. However, now i handle it with easeeeee. It doesn’t affect me anymore.
What I’m trying to say is, it all doesn’t matter. It’s just how you handle it, man, because truth be told, every single guy has weak points. Like the other day, my friend asked if it was tough for me with the chicks of other races in a club. I told him a lot of times I might not get it so easy at first. Like, for my non-Indian friends, they might get pretty good eye contact with a girl before approaching. It does happen to me but not as much.
For me, I told him I know I gotta work harder at first, but once I’ve opened, I know it’s over, it’s mine. So what if you have whatever qualities bringing you down? Don’t complain! Just work harder man! You might have to work harder in this situation than the next guy, but so what? That’s life. Quit whining and start winning.
Has it every occurred to you that maybe she says she doesn’t like short guys, but during the interaction you see a change in the way she looks at you? It’s all how you present yourself.
For me, sometimes I assume maybe she has never thought about being with an Indian guy, or maybe she has always thought that Indian guys don’t like her so she never bothered to befriend any. You never know, man.
So instead of worrying about all your insecurities, just show up in the land of women, and give out your love without expecting anything in return.
Here is an awesome article by Sebastian Drake via Dr. Asian Rake on Overcoming Racial Stereotypes in Dating.
Yours,
Lt. Walker
Singapore Girls Pick Up & the 13-Minute Seduction: Breakthrough in Chill Vibe (Client Report LR)
May 3, 2011
SINGAPORE GIRLS APPROACHED ME & THE 13-MINUTE SEDUCTION: BREAKTHROUGH IN CHILL VIBE, CLIENT REPORT (LR)
This is another relatively unusual report. I like to share the special ones for a reason. As you read on, you’ll see what makes this one so different.
Just to reiterate the usual disclaimer: Reports can be good learning tools because we can learn a lot from the past. These reports can help beginners get inside the mindsets and attitudes of successful daters. You also get a look at some of the techniques and strategies that have worked for others. In short, LRs are good ‘case studies’ in the dating arts.
We’ve gotten permission to share these reports from the girl involved. I’ve edited it so that the terminology is more consistent and have replaced all the real names. Some place names and other identifying details have also been altered.
None of the names or photos are of the real people involved. I know that some “pick up” companies make it a policy to use real photos, often without the girls’ permission (some of my female friends have been exploited this way). I maintain complete confidentiality for all involved, unless they request to be identified. I respect their privacy.
This report comes from Peter, an early 30s professional in Singapore. He’s a very busy man, so he narrated this to me, and I recorded it to transcribe later. Enjoy!
My Breakthrough in Chill Vibe, Having Girls Approach ME, and the 13-Minute Seduction
I’m not entirely sure how I finally made the switch to becoming the type of guy who has girls approaching him.
Just half a year ago, I was one of the biggest geeks I knew. I wore pocket protectors so I could carry a small calculator and pens around with me. Things have really changed since then.
Keys to the Bedroom
-Social proof from female friends
-Attraction from multiple women in the venue
-Reading and responding to her arousal cues
-Figuring out Chill Vibe (sexy fashion & image/having fun chilling/strong body language, eye contact, and tonality)
After almost five months of coaching with Dr. Asian Rake David, I went from having had only three sexual partners in my entire life of 30+ years to having tripled that number in a few months. But this encounter was a major breakthrough.
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