“What Do Women Want?” Dr. David Tian on 938 LIVE Radio
March 31, 2011
I was a guest for two weeks of Michelle Martin’s hour-long radio show on 93.8 FM LIVE. The topic the first week was “What Do Real Men Want?” and the following week was, “What Do Women Want?”
The next airing will be on Saturday, April 2, 11PM-12AM, in case you’re not out on the town yet. Anyone in the world can listen in through their website.
I’m working on getting the copyright permissions to reproduce the clips. Want to have everything above board 
I snapped this photo with my iPhone at the end of the first week.
Currently in Shanghai, so if you’re in the area, give me a shout at: david “at” asianrake.com
Dismayed to find The Great Firewall of China has decided to block gmail (grrr). As usual, youtube and facebook are blocked. Makes me appreciate Singapore all the more. But I’m looking forward to catching up with some mates over here and visiting my favorite restaurants and old haunts
Best,
David
How to Speak Better and Get the Girl
March 28, 2011
My latest article on Amped Asia. You can see it on their site here. I reference some videos and have added a couple of the clips below for your convenience. If the words in the jpgs below are too small, you can right-click the image and enlarge it separately.
How to Improve Your Verbal Skills to Help Your Dating Life
Question from fan Brian: “How do you improve your verbal skills? Some people are just not as gifted with their words as others, especially for us Asian guys who grew up speaking an Asian language at home.”
[Edit: The youtube clip from Eyes Wide Shut just got blocked by Warner. Go figure. That clip was great as there was also some great alpha male body language and movement by Cruise (being more like his natural self) in the 3rd minute of this clip, which gradually disappears as the rest of the long movie progresses and Cruise's character loses self-confidence. Let me know if you find a new clip of the same part of the movie.]
So there you have it. Speak slower. Diversify your vocabulary. And free your mind to be in the moment without self-censoring.
As usual, if you have any questions or suggestions, feel free to write to me at: david “at” asianrake.com
Cheers,
David
Expert Panel on Sex and Relationships in Singapore
March 17, 2011
I’ve been featured here on an expert panel in Singapore’s I-S Magazine’s “Ask the Sex Experts” article. Check it out here.
How to Use Humour to Attract Women
March 7, 2011
This is my latest article on Amped Asia. You can check out my article on “How to Use Humor to Attract Women” here.
I’ve reproduced it below for your convenience. If the jpegs are too small, click on them, and that will enlarge them for you in a new browser.
As always, comments are welcome!
Question from Matthew: “Everyone knows that humor is a big attraction tool. How does someone who’s not very funny, or is perhaps soft-spoken, develop a good ability with humor?”
Hey Matthew,
You are totally correct that humor is a big attraction tool.
If you can’t even make a girl laugh, there’s very little chance you’ll be able to attract her. If you CAN make her laugh, you’ve got a good sign she’s at least comfortable with you and may accept your advances.
Lack of humor is a problem endemic to Confucianized cultures, including East Asian societies. We’re taught to think logically, to be conformists, and to be obedient to our parents and elders. Our Confucianized parents raised us to be good mathematicians, engineers, and classical pianists. We aren’t using to living in the mental world of the ridiculous or doing and saying outrageously bizarre things.
But just like any other skill, being comedic and conveying humor are things you can learn, practice, and master. I’ll give you three quick tips any Asian brothers or sisters can use to channel their inner Russell Peters.
___
1. EXAGGERATE TO ABSURDITY
Dialogue 3
You (as a guy approaching the most hottest women in the bar or club): “Hey look, I know you guys are soo terribly unattractive that no guys would ever hit on you… So, I thought I’d do you a favor and make you look good… You guys are my good deed for the week (sly smile).”
Don’t do this on average-looking girls or on women lacking self-esteem. This is reserved for women who are beautiful and know they’re beautiful. They will get the joke 
Check out Russell Brand for exemplary cases of the “Exaggerate to Absurdity” strategy, especially his interview with Nerina Pallot. For the Russell Brand Nerina Pallot interview, click here.
___
2. POSITIVE MISINTERPRETATION
___
3. GET YOUR FRIENDS LAUGHING FIRST (AND GET READY TO LAUGH AT YOURSELF)
The Power of Attention in Controlling Attraction: Californication as Case Study
March 3, 2011
One of my favorite TV shows, Californication, is also beloved by many aspiring social artists. But many dating coaches fail to see the social arts (of the script writers and Duchovny playing the character) in the movie. The guy who put together this video clip does a great job of pointing a lot of what’s going on. Great job, NelTY PUA!
The Aura Dating Academy guys should appreciate this, as we just completed a fun 2-hour class that covered how to control attention–yours and hers–so as to control the conversational flow and power in the interaction. Withdrawing attention and making people earn it is an effective push-pull technique. Hank Moody does it masterfully here. He’s also exemplary with the cocky-funny.
Special Seminar with David Tian, Ph.D., on the Art of Banter
March 1, 2011
On Tuesday, October 18, Asia’s top dating coach and Master Mentor of Singapore Dating Academy: AURA. Dr. David Tian (aka., The Asian Rake) will be offering you an exclusive seminar on how YOU can learn the skills to be able to walk into any Singapore hotspot and walk out with a gorgeous new girlfriend, guaranteed. Dr. Tian is the world’s top specialist in coaching Singapore men how to meet, attract, and date women in Singapore.
- Do you ever become so self-conscious and anxious around beautiful women that your palms get sweaty and your mind goes completely blank?
- Have you seen your ideal woman walk by on Orchard Road, but you had no idea how to even approach her, so you watched her disappear from your life forever?
- Are you ever so nervous at the mere thought of talking to a beautiful girl that you’ve experienced any of these symptoms: your heart is racing, your breathing is constricted, or your feet feel like lead?
If so, then you’ll want to sign up for this FREE seminar right now!
After traveling the world, living on 3 continents in several countries, and successfully managing up to 7 “girlfriends” at a time, I went from being a total geek to dating beautiful women you’ve seen on magazine covers, TV, and billboards.
No matter how tough the dating world is for you right now, you don’t have to rely on getting lucky, being good-looking, or being rich… You can actually learn this secret SYSTEM for attracting women, just like I did.
When I first moved to Singapore in 2008, I was frequently featured in the local media. And that quickly led to a flood of requests for advice and coaching.
And I’m now offering a special seminar that’s complimentary for you if you RSVP. Other guys have paid $397 and more for a seminar like this, but if you get on the guest-list, you’ll get this free!
Notice the old date on this post. It’s hidden in my website, so that only guys like YOU, who have received a special invitation from people like my friend Skilldo, can find it and RSVP for this free event.
Some of the lessons you’ll learn at this seminar include…
- Why following common social courtesy and “what your mom taught you” is HORRIBLE for creating attraction… and what to do instead
- How to use humour (the “universally attractive trait”) to create a personal connection with a woman the INSTANT you meet her
- Exercises to help you quickly develop a sexy sense of humor… even if you’ve never been very funny in the past
- How to smoothly switch the conversation to sexual topics and get a woman incredibly turned on… She’ll be silently BEGGING you to “have your way” with her!
- Why just learning “techniques” and “pick up lines” alone won’t help you… and what to do about it
- A way to use the power of laughter to cause addictive and even drug-like responses in a woman that make her LONG to be around you
- How to start a conversation with a Singaporean woman in any situation
… and much more.
Seats are limited, so get in while you can.
Date: Tuesday, October 18
Time: 7-10 PM
Location: Within easy walking distance of a central, downtown MRT station. The exact location will only be sent to those who RSVP using the form below.
UPDATE: THIS EVENT IS NOW FULLY BOOKED. PLEASE RSVP USING THIS FORM TO BE PLACED ON THE WAITING LIST FOR SIMILAR EVENTS IN THE FUTURE.
UPDATE: THIS EVENT IS NOW FULLY BOOKED. PLEASE RSVP USING THIS FORM TO BE PLACED ON THE WAITING LIST FOR SIMILAR EVENTS IN THE FUTURE.
Seating is limited. Once we reach capacity, we’ll have to start placing people on a waiting list. So act now, and fill out the form.
Here’s one of the many thank-you messages I’ve received after a seminar:
“Hey there, i just wanted to let Mr David know that i tried the opener he gave during the free seminar and it worked. I was really wow! I got the girl number and have been going out with her for awhile now… I said the opener just like how Mr David taught and the outcome was exactly what Mr David told us would happen. She giggled. This is the first time I’ve ever approached a girl and ask for her number. Mr David, you are the sh*t. Thank you.” –Izhar from Singapore
What are you waiting for? Sign up now!
I’m looking forward to welcoming you!
You can read more about me on my bio at the Dr. Asian Rake blog and on my bio at the Aura Dating Academy website. You can also learn more about the Aura Dating Academy of which I am currently serving as Master Mentor.
Do yourself a favour.
Get it done. Get it handled.
Best, David
|
|
-
__________________________
