Top 5 Tips for Singaporean Men Who Want to Attract Beautiful Women
August 22, 2010
The premier news channel in Singapore, Channel News Asia, asked me to put together a list of the top five tips for Singaporean men who want to attract beautiful Singaporean women. You can find my article here!
Unfortunately, it seems the formatting was all lost in the conversion, so all the bold text is gone, but I’m sure you can figure it out. Check it out here for yourself!
Would love to hear your thoughts. You can contact me at: david@asianrake.com
Cheers!
How much Social Comfort is there in Singapore?
August 12, 2010
Living in Singapore for over two years, what has struck me as probably the most salient trait of Singaporean people in general, and young men in particular, is the lack of social comfort and the prevalence of social anxiety. And this is directly related to their general inability to approach or date women outside their insular social circles.
See this recent article by world renowned humanist scholar, Martha C. Nussbaum, professor of law and philosophy at the University of Chicago: The Ugly Models
An excerpt: “It is time to take off the rose-colored glasses. Singapore and China are terrible models of education for any nation that aspires to remain a pluralistic democracy. They have not succeeded on their own business-oriented terms, and they have energetically suppressed imagination and analysis when it comes to the future of the nation and the tough choices that lie before it.“
Also see this eye-opening article on “academic freedom” and creativity in Singapore.
Interesting excerpts:
“Self-censorship has made people afraid,” Singh says, referring to the tendency in Singapore to watch what one says for fear of causing offence or breaking the law.
“It is important for them to be bold, brave and robust.”
So Singh makes his students do what they fear most: take chances. For class projects, men have gone shopping dressed as women. Students have stopped strangers to ask for spare change or to ask them to exchange clothes. Such antics would hardly be worthy of a fraternity initiation, but in this conservative society they have made headlines. Indeed, in the early days of the class, the projects required a police permit.
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Linda M. Perry, an American who has been teaching communications at the National University of Singapore for two years, says high-profile cases have persuaded people to censor themselves. Everyone is so terrified of crossing the line that most don’t even get close to it.
Perry is quick to acknowledge that no restrictions have been placed on her. There is no official list of topics she is not allowed to raise. Yet she knows exactly when she has crossed an OB marker. Something as innocuous as a discussion about the recent arrest of two bloggers, who were jailed for making racial slurs, caused a roomful of 200 people to freeze up, Perry says. Students later half-joked with her that she would find her things packed when she returned to her apartment.
“I can feel the fear in the room,” says Perry, who says she plans not to return to Singapore when her contract runs out next year. “You can cut it with a knife.”
Most Singaporeans don’t seem all that unhappy with the restrictions. For the past four decades, the ruling People’s Action Party has delivered stunning economic growth. What was once a malaria-ridden colonial outpost on the equator now has one of the highest standards of living in the world. While its neighbours are dragged down by poverty and ethnic strife, Singapore is an oasis of racial and religious stability. As long as the Government continues to deliver steady gains, observers say most people will accept the restrictions on what they can say and what they can publish.
Yet Shanmugaratnam is concerned that Singapore’s successes have produced a generation of young people who are apathetic.
Food for thought.
The good news is that, as SMU prof Kirpal Singh has discovered, social anxiety can be conquered and social comfort can be cultivated. Check back here later as I explain how to do it.
Cheers, Asian Rake David
10 Things You Didn’t Know about Orgasm
August 9, 2010
I absolutely love TED Talks. Here’s one to add some levity to the more serious and deep posts I’ve been making lately. I also thought this would be good to help out with the pre-Kinsey Report level of “sex education” in Singapore, LOL.
“Bonk” author Mary Roach delves into obscure scientific research, some of it centuries old, to make 10 surprising claims about sexual climax, ranging from the bizarre to the hilarious.
Death, the afterlife, and now sex — Mary Roach tackles the most pondered and least understood conundrums that have baffled humans for centuries. (She’s funny, too.)
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