Singapore Pick Up Weirdo and Lairs…
September 14, 2008
I guess when you stand up, you’ll get noticed, and others will try to chop you down.
For those who don’t know, there are online forums of random guys who share tips and thoughts on getting better with women.
These forums are called “lairs.” There are at least three lairs in Singapore alone. These lairs organize meetings for these guys to meet other aspiring “pickup artists.”
My experience with lairs in several different countries has been largely disappointing. Over 90% of the lair members are downright creepy and have major psychological issues. Pickup weirdos.
This past weekend, I got sucker-punched by a new pickup weirdo who introduced himself to me outside a club. He was with a big gang of lair guys, a few of whom I know and count as friends.
When a friend introduces me to another guy, I’ll treat the guy like a friend. I’m friendly. I let my guard down. I let you into my circle. I’ll even introduce you to my girls.
The last thing you should do is to try to AMOG me (trying to assert your alpha-ness and social authority) in front of one of my girls.
Even while it’s happening, I give you the benefit of the doubt. Maybe this is just the way you are. Maybe you’re new to the scene. Maybe you don’t know that you’re stepping on toes. Maybe you’re incredibly insecure and need to pee on the tree to feel like a man. So I throw you a bone.
But no. The air of superiority, and the naked assertion of ego is unmistakeable.
So you win the little AMOG battle. You pump up my girl’s buying temperature. She gets giddy, subconsciously feeling that two men are fighting over her. I learned something very important about this girl.
But more significantly, that pickup weirdo just lost a potential friend… for now, anyway.
Choose your battles wisely. Especially when there isn’t even a war.
Peace and love, The Asian Rake.
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Yo Dave
This is an awesome post…I have my fair share of such pick up retards…this only give me even more peace to know that one’s level of social skills…when I’m encountered with situation such as this it gives me 2 pieces of information…
1. that guy truly needs more awareness (in terms of self discovery and innate peace)
2. if the girl digs this guy then she obviously does not obtain the kinda value I need for any partner I wishes to have in my life
So all in all its still a win win situation…a girl who has a sound mind above her shoulders would intuitively recognise what’s the deal-io with anyone tring to AMOG another…its clearly for self validation due to low self esteem…
High value girls recognises high value guys…
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Hey Fleance,
Thanks for writing in.
While I agree with most of what you say, it’s important to recognize that (as David D. has repeatedly affirmed) “attraction is not a choice.”
So I certainly wouldn’t want to blame anyone, girl or guy, for feeling attraction towards someone else.
However, one can be culpable for how one follows up on the attraction, including the words said and the actions undertaken.
If a girl hasn’t had enough experience with monitoring her own “buying temperature,” and she hasn’t reached the level of being able to tell when she’s attracted and why, then she’s high-risk in terms of a long-term relationship.
This may not matter to most guys, especially in Singapore, where many men prefer to marry virgins (or so they say).
But it can become an issue when your social circle includes lots of guys on the make, or if you are in a society that encourages “hooking up.”
There’s a lot more to say about this topic, but I’ll leave it for later.
Cheers from Beijing, The Asian Rake.
Yo man, I totally agree with your take on the whole pickup weirdo thing. It’s totally against everything you’ve been saying, about making it about your lifestyle and deep identity change.
Good luck with all your recent attention, and don’t let these weirdos get to you.