The Natural’s Biggest Secret

January 29, 2008

I’m going back to Singapore in just one more week! Woowee! I just got back to Canada, but will be heading out to the US in a couple of days before returning to Canada and then flying out to Singapore.

Here’s something I’ve been wanting to write about for a long time. It’s a lesson that I first learned from hanging out with Natural-MD, a major star of my LR on the 25-minute club pull and LR on the Asian Dancer, as well as other naturals and guys who are really good with women.

There are many things naturals have in common. Some of the most important include an unwavering belief that all the girls are into him, that beautiful women are not scarce but abundant, and that he doesn’t give a sh-t what any woman thinks of him.

But the most powerful factor is that he is the source of his own fun and amusement. Put in other (NLP) words, he is constantly “in state.” You’ve probably heard this already from guys like Tyler Durden. But I’ve not only witnessed this first-hand in Natural-MD and other naturals, but have experienced it on a consistent basis myself. When a man, whether a natural or not, is in state, it is as if he can do no wrong.

Caveat: What I write next may offend some readers. If you are a politically-correct community guy, stop reading now.

Natural-MD’s favorite opener is to put his arms around his wing and say to a girl walking by (in a strong Borat-style accent), “This is my friend… and he is gay!” Then this starts a hilarious banter between Natural-MD and his wing (sometimes me, but more often Wing-S, haha) about who’s more gay and what they want to do to each other. The clever response is to then turn to the girl and say, “Yes, I love to do my friend up the ass, but for you, my beautiful maiden, I’m willing to change. Look at you. You’re so gorgeous I can’t resist you. Come here,” as you then grab her around the waist and pull her in to smell her neck. She pretends to be shy, but that’s just token resistance. Pretty soon, you’re making out with her. Yes, this works, believe it or not. And this is all done within the first couple minutes of meeting her.

Why will this work for the Natural and not for the vast majority of community guys? Because… he is “in state.” He doesn’t give a f–k what she thinks and is just f–king around with his bros, all in the name of fun!

Now, I certainly don’t feel comfortable throwing gay jokes around. And if I don’t feel comfortable doing it, I won’t have fun doing it. Still, I can’t help but get sucked into his reality when he does this. When he’s doing it, I have a ton of fun just watching him have fun!

For a while at first, when Natural-MD wasn’t around, I had to fall back on my tried and true method for getting myself into the “fun, in the flow” state: Light and funny conversation. Often, I will first try to use my wings for this, although I’ve found that most community guys have trouble coming up with light and fun convo in the venue. So, I then turn to the bartenders and hostesses that I know. This unfortunately always takes a while, sometimes as long as half an hour.

But then, while training individual clients, I discovered an even better method: INDUCED SILLINESS. There are all sorts of little games you can play with your wings to loosen each other up.

These games are effective because they get you outside of your head, into the moment, feeling un-selfconscious, devoid of social anxiety, and full of social freedom.

One I like to use is the Ape, Man, Girl game, which is inspired by the paper, rock, scissors game:
Pair off. Then, when the signal is given, each person strikes a pose with sound effects like an ape, man, or girl. Remember to decide what each looks like ahead of time. The ape beats the girl, man beats the ape, the girl gets the man.

One of my other favorites is a verbal game, in which one person says a noun and the other says a verb. Then one person has to make a sentence using those two words. Each person after that has to make a sentence using one of the words in the previous sentence.

But the best induced silliness game I’ve heard is from Tyler Durden. It’s simple. One guy names an animal, e.g., an orangutan, and the other guy has to do an impersonation of it. Then that guy gets to name an animal, and the other guy has to do an impersonation. Keep doing it until you’re rolling on the floor laughing and then immediately open the group next to you. F’in A!

Get out of your head. Get in the moment. Free yourself from social anxiety by becoming unselfconscious. Be in the flow. And HAVE FUN.

Once you are “in state” like that, you can basically say and do anything that you personally find to be FUN, and it’ll work. Besides, even if it doesn’t stick, you won’t even notice since you’ll be having so much FUN! And then it WILL open just because you’re having so much fun. All you’ll have to keep in mind is kino escalation and logistics.

Incidentally, this is not only the formula for getting the girl, but also for having a fun and fulfilled life.

Happy playin’, The Asian Rake.

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