Guys who focus on their level of pickup mastery may be sacrificing their happiness

August 19, 2007

Niels Hoven has just posted a short and super insightful blog entry on the whole pickup levels of mastery thing. I couldn’t have said it any better, especially this part:
“Put a guy in front of me. I don’t care how hot the girls he’s shagging are. I don’t care how comfortable he is in bars. I don’t even care if he can cold approach. If he has everything he wants and is happy with his life, then he’s achieved mastery.”

This is also along the lines of Neil Strauss’s conclusion to The Game, where he says that the only way to win the game is to leave the game.

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  1. Regal on August 21st, 2007 2:40 am

    I have been for some time now one who is loathe to compare people and say someone is at a different “level”… I don’t like rigid hierarchies; in fact, I don’t perceive others as more or less valuable than me, the way most of the people that I know do. I did it when I was in grade school and high school, until I realized how it affected the way I saw and interacted with the world in a negative way and I changed my mindset. Now, whether you are a beggar or a billionaire, I see your worth as a person as equal… you may be able to contribute to my life than someone else, in which case I view you as more valuable to ME than someone else may be, but that doesn’t mean you are above or beneath me. You are just a person that I may or may not want to hang out with, talk to, invest time or resources in, etc.

    Any time you start comparing grades or levels or what have you, you begin trying to figure out where YOU fit in that hierarchy. And what always happens when people see themselves in a hierarchy is that they start looking up and down… and when you start seeing others as above you, you feel inferior towards them, and when you start seeing others as below you, you feel superior towards them. Neither of those feelings are desirable IMO, and neither one of those leads to feelings of happiness.

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