David Wygant on why Day Game is Much Better than Club Game

August 23, 2007

I picked up Wygant’s David D. interview from Brian H. (thanks, dude), who has since gone on to become one of Wygan’ts mentees. I haven’t even finished the 2 CD interview yet, but damn, David Wygant is a breath of fresh air. He was the “inspiration” and consultant for the movie Hitch. I had checked out his website and blog before and was a little impressed, but I couldn’t tell if he was bringing anything new to the table other than the fact that he also offers programs and products for women and for teens. His free podcasts are too short and his copywriting looks the same as everybody else’s.

But this interview was great, and I feel like I have a much better handle on what he teaches. Apparently, Wygant offers $10,000 90-day one-on-one programs. He got started when he was casually helping some of his millionaire entrepreneur friends meet girls at the Coffee Bean and Whole Foods.

What I really like about his approach is not just that it’s clean morally, but that it is super time-efficient. He basically gets his clients to chart out their daily schedules–where they go during the day, what they do, etc. And he builds a “routine stack” (he doesn’t call it that, but that’s what it is) around that. He also takes the “natural game” approach and helps them craft stories and other “material” (again, he doesn’t call it that, but that’s what it is) around their own current strengths and identity, which was the most valuable thing that Sebastian at theApproach did for me.

Let’s face it. I was never really a dance-clubbing kind of guy (bars are a different story though). I used to feel awkward dancing in clubs. But almost everyone in the community makes clubs out to be the end all and be all of our sarging existence. They say the hottest girls are all there, dolled up, and in one place at the same time.

But what Wygant says is that the same girl, who in the club has a super high bitch shield with tons of attitude, is also the sweetest girl in the cafe the next afternoon. I know this is true because I’ve experienced it myself. I’ve also experienced too many times the surprise upon seeing a girl in daylight on the day 2 and wondering if it was the same hottie you opened in the club. Approaching during the day means that you get a more accurate picture of what she looks like and what her true personality is like.

The knock against day game in the community is that there isn’t a high enough concentration of talent in one place at one time. But what I’ve noticed is that the concentration around trendy shopping areas in the late afternoons and early evenings on weekends is higher than in most clubs on a Saturday night.

By god, I don’t know how much longer I can keep enjoying loud, mega-dance clubs.

For one thing, it’s killing my sleep schedule. I have no idea how you guys with day jobs can keep this up. When I sleep at 4 am for three nights in a row, it throws off my sleep schedule for the rest of the week. And just when I’m starting to finally fall asleep at 1am instead of 4am, it’s Thursday night again.

On top of that, I can’t help feeling like girls get really ditzy in clubs. The same girls who you could have a really deep conversation with at a cafe talk like ADD teenagers in the loud, mega-dance clubs. I feel like I’m so old now, as if I can’t communicate with these girls because my tastes in music, food, drink, culture, etc., are years older than them. In fact, I think it’s safe to say my tastes in these areas are also much older than my own age group.

So when David Wygant says that he has millionaire clients who also don’t feel comfortable in clubs and don’t want to have to go back to them, and instead, find places they are ALREADY going to and activities that they are ALREADY doing and crafts a schedule to meet women around that, I’m very interested

In my old days, I LOVED going to pubs, shooting pool, and talking about philosophy with my buddies over craft beer and wings.

I have changed a little bit. I still like pubs. I still like beer. I still like philosophy. I still suck at pool. But now I enjoy gin martinis and single malt scotches. I enjoy talking to new people in bars. Thanks to JCH’s tutelage, I enjoy the sophisticated atmosphere of certain martini and tapas bar-lounges. I feel like I fit in there. They’re the kind of places you might find my archetypes on their down time.

But mega-dance clubs? I’m in my early 30s now, and all my ex-girlfriends from my AFC days used to tell me that I have the tastes of an old man (jazz, Belgian beer, philosophy, old books, and I use pine wood shoe horns for my leather shoes–that was the clincher, haha). I don’t want to be “that old guy” in the clubs. You know the kind I’m talking about.

My day game in Asia is pretty good, if I may say so myself. But I’ll be the first to admit that I haven’t been approaching it as systematically as I have bar-club game. So here’s to a mid-year’s resolution!

Cheers!

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